Can Fat Women Be Sexy and Desirable?

I asked the question, can fat women be sexy and desirable, and this is after much thought about the subject knowing that the answer is certainly yes. Can fat women be sexy and desirable? After wanting to write about this subject, skirting around it and seeing so much energy expended on the issue I really want to know or is it out of the question? No, I did not ask if plus size women can be sexy or can overweight women be sexy? Why, because in general conversation people use the term fat because that is just how they talk. No, it is not politically correct nor is it sensitive to the feelings of those women who are overweight, or plus size or whatever word may be used at the time. But the term "fat" is the word usage that gets right to the point and it is somewhat politically charged, isn't it? It isn't as politically correct as plus size, overweight, chubby or even chunky. On the other hand it doesn't carry the sting of the words obese or meaty, beefy big and bouncy. But still, can they be sexy? Can they arouse a man's animal instincts? Does being fat prevent them from being as sexy and sexual as they want to be? Well, the answer is maybe? If it is true you have to love yourself before you can be loved then considering yourself fat is definitely a limiting factor.

Can fat women be sexy? Clothed, naked, in a swimsuit or in their bra and panties ? Do they think they can be sexy or do they have to be asked a second question like do they think a fat woman can be sexy or does society think a fat woman can be sexy? I think you will find women of all sized give a different answer and that is the problem. Society answers the question, no! Do lingerie manufacturers think fat women can be sexy? The answer today is a little different than it was just a few years ago so perhaps the atmosphere is changing for the better but in many ways, not really.

What does it matter what society thinks, anyway? Is being fat like being black or brown. Years of institutional racism mean that society can change but how long does it take? Also does the idea of fat women and their sexiness just go underground and become much more subtle? Subtle or not the idea of a fat woman being or not being able to be sexy sounds preposterous, doesn't it. Of course they can! Shout it out now! Fat women can be sexy! But does anyone believe it and if so, who?

As I was doing my research on the subject I first looked to my industry, lingerie, clubwear, and the like. I am afraid it has not had and does not really have a particularly good track record. It has been recently that the lingerie manufacturers have offered plus size lingerie but to their credit much has changed. On the other hand most vendors do not carry any or many sku's for plus size products. It gets worse in the modeling industry though and by many accounts it is shameful. Plus size models are not really plus size models. Again though is it the chicken or the egg? Many models who are portrayed as plus size models are simply women with large breasts but with bodies that are perhaps a size 10 or 12 but no larger. For the most part they do not really represent the plus size market. Is this because the vendors want it or does the public, including many plus size women demand it?

Could it be our definition of fat is out of sync? Is it outdated or simply not applicable? Or is fat what it always was? Is fat obese? Is fat chubby or a lard ass or simply a fattie? It seems we have a long way to go as there are millions of women and men who may fit into this category and don't you think they deserve some exactitude about their physical condition. Does it matter? I suspect to many of them it matters a great deal!

Take a look at the pictures of beautiful women on the blog post and think about your reaction to them. Are these women 1. just plain drop dead gorgeous or 2. plus size 3.fat or finally 4. obese? Is there a difference between 2, 3 or 4? Some have said that the hottie in the red bra is busty, hot and delicious but what is your response?

Lingerie and Sexy Clothes make me feel Sexy!

I am asked constantly why lingerie is so popular and also why do women seem to always be on the look out for sexy clothing ? The answer is in our title as lingerie and sexy clothes make every woman feel sexy! Women, as well as men to a lesser degree wear clothes that make them feel sexy and by extension look sexy as one begets the other. Looking sexy is a gift given to us by our creator and within limits we should exploit it in the pursuit of looking and feeling our best. Does this mean we tramp it up and look slutty and suggestive? Well, no not really but looking sexy is certainly within reason although if you ask 100 women what constitutes within reason you will likely get multiple answers to the question.




Are women simply looking for attention, seeking fufillment or just wanting to be recognized? All of those and many more as far as I can tell and for the most part they are a sign of a healthy and well adjusted individual. Is it true that it is better to look good than to feel good? Well, not really but we all know that when we feel good, we look good and on and on. Looking good is fundamental to our mental health and wanting to look good is a sign of good mental health. Is wanting to look trashy, trampy and downright outrageous good or bad. Here most would agree that looking good does have its limits. In other words a woman can go too far and cross the line or jump the shark when it comes to looking attractive.




We often see that person who has crossed the line but not as often as one might imagine. When you consider how free everyone in the free world is free to dress or not dress up then you might wonder what keeps everyone in line. After all there are no real fashion police and rarely do people actually express that opinion they may have voiced in private. So what keeps women, in this case from breaking all the rules? In all liklihood the answer is that the rules of society are strongly woven and breaking the societal rule is rarely if ever violated. Society is a strong incentive to stay within the lines and stick to the rules. Since the rules are rarely written down most women rarely get close to the edge.




Women want to look sexy and often do but the truth is they rarely break the rules for fear of being labeled outcasts. Outcasts are after all social deviants who are to be avoided on some if not all levels. So when you look at a woman who is "outside" the norms consider that she is likely not really outside any limits, only superficially scratching the limits. When was the last time you actually saw a woman who was violating the social rules about what to wear? The answer if rarely, if ever and even then the question has to be asked as to how far did she actually go? I submit that the violation is likely a minor infraction, at best. How far did she actually go in violating the societal norms the rest of us follow? Did she wear a hot pink bra with her navy top? Did you actually get a glimpse of her panties? Did you see her bra straps? How about her pants were too tight? Now I know those are pretty serious infractions but all in all very minor deviations from societies norms.



Why is it that there aren't more serious violations? Is it because the rules are the rules and breaking them is considered very violative and damaging to othe rest of us. I mean what if a young boy saw a 19 year old young womans underwear? Would the young boy be damaged beyond repair? What if a 75 year old widower saw a 17 year olds underwear? Would that cause 3 years of therapy? Of course not and you know it. The truth is the damage would be non existant. Sure the lawyers would run ads asking "have you been exposed to the excruciating exposure of a man's underpants"? As a society we all comport ourselves rather well as far as I can tell, don't you agree?

Are young women afraid that if they wear provocative clothing they will be exposed to the threat of having "asked for it" in the event they are raped? Not likely as we all know that you cannot accept and invite the horrible act of rape simply by the choice of what you wear over your body. No woman can ask for being raped although many rapists or wanna be rapists often take a run at it.

Society has a grip and a strong one at that on our behaviour and has placed limits on what we can wear, how we can dress, what we can expose and by and large we all follow the rule. Society makes its statement and we are all, most of us, more than willing to go along for the ride.

Xotic Eye Makeup for Girls

Xotic eye makeup for girls is some very hot looking stuff for Halloween and so much more. Xotic eye makeup for girls is going to be some very popular makeup that will allow a girl to look as hot as she feels. Consider that when you think about how you are going to look tonight when you head to the clubs.




As you can see this is no ordinary makeup by any means but it looks very hot, very over the top and exactly what you want a girl to look like when she says that she is getting dressed up for the evening. If you want to look sexy and explosively alluring then this makeup for you. The sexy makeup comes in a number of styles and one more erotic and exotic than the next. If you still need convincing then take a look at some of our other examples.

Sexy Costumes for Halloween 2011

Yes, it is time to start thinking about Halloween, 2011 as we are already in late July and it is only 101 days until Halloween and we are getting ready for this very special time of year. Of course we have plenty of new costumes for you to consider and they are very special. How about this sexy nurse costume? It is cute, sexy, hot and well you get the idea, it is a sexy halloween costume and we have plenty more for your review.

How about this very sexy Marie Antoinette Costume that is short and tight and it looks like it belongs in the French Renaissance doesn't it? Well maybe if they were on crack!

There is no doubt this is going to be a really fun Halloween as we can feel it in the air, almost since it is so darn hot now we really are looking forward to a little cooler air and the onset of winter but we can wait as we have so much to do in the meantime. How about this sexy beer girl in her hot little number?

Abstinence Panties for Young Girls

You have heard of a chastity belt but now we have the abstinence panties with appropriate sayings on them to suggest or inspire staying a virgin or whatever abstinence you might desire of your young girls. After giving it very little thought I am beginning to conclude that this is someone's idea of a joke. Would a young girl buy these for herself for anything other than a joke? Would a mother buy them for her young daughter and have any reasonable idea of success? What will they inspire and I am totally convinced they will inspire a lot other than actual abstinence. Since I don't actually have a strong response to these panties I won't get all lit up about them but I just think they are a waste of time. Do you agree?

What are the best sex toys for women?

The best sex toys for women really does depend on what a woman is looking to accomplish. Does she want clitoral stimulation or vaginal penetration? Is she looking for a powerful clitoral, vaginal or anal vibrator? Does she want to step onto the wild side of anal sex? Is she anxious to get a bit of g spot stimulation? So you see, as always, it depends now doesn't it? The question is asked as women often enter the world of sex toys with little or no point of reference. If they are in a relationship their mate may take the lead and purchase the sex toys. She may never have even considered the question, what type of sex toy do I need or want. So I offer a guide that seeks to answer the question regardless of who, what, when, where and why it is asked. What are the best sex toys for women?



First of all why are we talking about sex toys on a lingerie website? Simple, really as the two product groups, lingerie and sex toys are very intertwined. Sexually active women often purchase lingerie and at the same time are looking for sex toys. In fact more and more women are looking for sex toys all the time as the connection between lingerie and sex toys are closely intertwined. So where better than a lingerie website blog than to find information on such an important subject.

So let me suggest the top five sex toys that every woman should consider purchasing first and whether she will ever need to own more than these five is doubtful, to say the least.

1. The Rabbit Vibrator : A sex toy box without a rabbit vibrator is hard to imagine as they are versatile, multi functional vibrators that make fairly large claims then proceed to meet the hype. To be sure I am inclined to suggest a thrusting rabbit vibrator but a traditional rabbit will certainly do the job every woman asks. Many women want a feeling of fullness and the rabbit is rarely outdone. So you get the insertion of the rabbit that fills up her vagina and the clitoral stimulation of those rabbit ears against her clitoris which makes it even better for successful orgasms. There are so many variations of the Rabbit that a list would be very long indeed but suffice it to say that models from Doc Johnson, Pipedream and others are a safe bet.

2. How about a Magic Wand from Hitachi? Bulky, sure, heavy- a bit, powerful-most assureadly! After purchasing a couple of underpowered little vibrators many women simply get to the point. They want a powerful vibrator that will get them off and the answer is an electric vibrator that stands up to a woman's clitoris and gives her maximum vibrations per minute, day after day. These Hitachi's are just what the Dr. ordered if he or she is writing prescriptions for vibrators. All the negatives are over ridden by the power that this baby packs and if it is power she wants, give it to her.

3. Next on the hit parade is the pocket rocket ! Give her a small, relatively powerful vibrator that she can place exactly where she wants it to go. It isn't the most powerful vibrator on the planet but she may not want that, at least not all the time. The issue here is performance and maneuverability and the pocket rocket has that in spades. If you want the original pocket rocket then by all means buy it. If on the other hand you want a reasonable facsimile then buy one of the very many knockoffs available. They all ofer the same movement, light weight and maximum clitoral placement she may desire.

4. Realistic Dildo with Suction cup. What do you say about a product that many women and some men love so much? This little devil is what a woman wants and she might even admit it. Thickly veined with a length of approximately 6.5 inches long and 1.5 inches in diameter this is a great gift for any and every woman as long as you are discreet. This item has a suction cup and that can come in very handy in the shower or elsewhere when she wants to use her hands for clitoral stimulation or whatever.

5. Lubrication : Last and certainly not least is the issue of lubrication which comes into place whether it be a penis or a vibrator, a vaginal, clitoral or anal entry. Every woman needs lubrication to a greater or lesser degree and while there are many excellent lubricants on the market I opt for the Astroglide brand of water based lubricants. There are others but I had to make a decision and this is the winner.

Clearly another list would opt for other options but I don't believe you can go wrong with these choices.

Shapewear and Shapers are for Women of all Sizes and Shapes!

So you think you don't need to wear a shaper or shapewear because you are not overweight or plus size? So you think someone is going to tell you that you need to wear a girdle? So you think shapewear is only for fat or large women? Well the truth is that shapers are for every woman and you don't need to be plus size in order to benefit from shapers and shapewear.

Shapers operate on a very simple level and that is one of compression. Shapers hold you in, sculpt your body and the results are often dramatic and significant. They are so easy to wear, make you look better to extremely good and they are not expensive, at least not relative to how much good they do. So why don't more women wear them?

The answer to that question is more difficult than you might imagine. Women are willing to do just about anything to look better, sexier or simply more put together. So why the hesitation to wear a compression garment? Well, compression garments or shapers to the rest of us are not new to the game of women's fashions but they are the recipients of advances in the area of "miracle" fabrics that allow these garments to be easier to wear.

Back in the day compression garments went by terms such as girdles and they were heavy, ugly and in some cases painful to wear as controlling a woman's body was no easy task. At that time as in the present the best way to get maximum compression was to use rubber! That is rubber as in the same material used to make tires and other rubber products. Problem was then and now is that rubber does not breathe. You knew this before this article was published but wearing a garment that does not breathe is simply not enjoyable. Rubber traps fluids between the garment and a woman's body and there is nowhere to go, read that nowhere. But it does work as a compression garment and can often result in some weight loss along the lines of water loss.

In order for a garment to be made that results in compression you need a combination of flexibility, strength and comfort. Along the lines of a bullet proof vest, compression garments need to do their job but be comfortable in the process. That was not possible 50 years ago but due to advancements in materials, construction and design the makers of compression garments can now offer foundations that offer slimming effects, light weight and strength thus creating the compression garments now available on the market.

It really doesn't matter how big or small you are there are compression garments made for you! The reason for this is that not every woman needs the same compression throughout the garment and some garments require little if any compression. Perhaps all the exercise in the world will not get rid of all that remaining fat accumulation left after you delivered your baby. Possibly all you need is a little help for your upper thighs. The answer is a garment that offers light to medium compression in those areas to make you look absolutely fabulous in your new wispy dress or outfit. So what is a woman to do? Select the compression shapewear that works for you, no less or no more and that is it. There is no need to labor all evening in a bulky, heavy and cumbersome garment that is working on all areas of your body, rather than specific areas that you know need help.

There are so many options you have for shaper vendors how do you choose? The answer is Vedette Shapewear . This full line shapewear company offers a large variety of sexy shapers for all sorts of problem areas from your back fat to your calves and everywhere in between. To be sure there are Spanx, that offers low to medium compression garments that are fashionable and fabulous for many women and many others. Don't fail to use the garment your need to get the look you want. Keep in mind that the selection is dramatic and should keep you looking shapely, sexy and sophisticated.