Why Should Women Wear Sexy Lingerie?

Why should women wear sexy lingerie in the bedroom or before sexual activity? What is the point of wearing sexy lingerie when the lingerie ends up getting removed shortly after putting it on? Does sexy lingerie really serve any purpose other than helping make a woman a sex object?

I was reading a blog the other day from a feminist and it stood for the position that sexy lingerie is a bad thing and objectifies women as sexual objects and is dehumanizing to her. At first I was amused that these feminists are so off base that they don't get it. How wrong can a feminist be to dismiss the value of sexy lingerie to women but on the other hand it was indeed a woman writing the blog post. After reading it again I decided I still disagreed with the post but thought it was a good starting point for presenting the opposite side of the argument. It is my belief as a woman that it is up to the individual woman as to what she wears or doesn't wear in bed, before sex or to work. This tyranny of the feminist left is over reaching as it presumes to tell women what they can't and cannot wear. Why in the world would the fringe left or the wacky right presume to think they can dictate what anyone wears? But this ignores the question as to whether the wearing of "sexy" lingerie is a means of men objectifying a woman?

Certainly we can agree that sexy lingerie does expose a woman's body in a very suggestive and sexual way. Much of the sexy lingerie is sheer, transparent, short, skimpy and naughty. Thus a simplistic approach to the wearing of sexy lingerie would argue that that in itself is making a sexual object out of a woman's body. What this argument ignores is a woman's free will to present herself as a sexual being which she is regardless of what she or others think. All of us are sexual beings and there is nothing we can do about that. How we project ourselves is entirely up to us. The argument that it is "men's attempt to make women a sex object" is assuming so much simply for the sake of many feminist's agendas to make men responsible for all that is wrong with the world. In this case men are innocent of anything other than enjoying women's sexuality and there is nothing wrong with that.

The reason women wear sexy lingerie is as varied as there are women. No doubt some women wear sexy lingerie to please the man in their lives. If this is not voluntary then of course it is inappropriate at best. Forcing a woman to wear any garment is wrong but on the other hand anything a couple does in the privacy of their own home that is not illegal is perfectly appropriate. Wearing sexy lingerie is a means to an end that apparently many women enjoy but there is no doubt that men's desire is a component. Trying to insert yourself into the decisions of adults in the bedroom is simply a waste of time regardless of the reason. Free will is free will and to suggest that women only wear lingerie for the sake of men is patently false.

Feminism has done much for women although what it has done in the bedroom is difficult to ascertain. Sexy lingerie is a garment that is often a prelude to sex and in many ways much of what goes on in a bedroom is for the sake of sexual gratification. Is it mistreating a woman if he climaxes and she doesn't? Is spanking her bottom gently or telling her to do something like "faster", "harder" or "don't stop" dominating her? Where do we stop if we get on the slippery slope of telling women or men for that matter what is and is not appropriate?

I suggest we stay out of the bedroom altogether with our political agenda's and religious beliefs if the parties in the bedroom don't ask for the direction. It is legitimate for feminists to express their opinions but like politics and religion it is best to keep a hands off position on the subject of sex which is after all a major component of buying, wearing and introducing lingerie into the bedroom. I suggest most women dismiss the arguments that wearing sexy lingerie objectifies a woman as perhaps it does, perhaps it doesn't but who really cares? In some ways it is like preaching to people that chocolate is bad for you because it has sugar, caffeine and causes one to gain weight. It clearly appears that this is the case but it is also delicious, satisfying and millions are not about to stop eating it for those reasons. Sex and sexy lingerie and sexual enjoyment and men and women are so intertwined that virtually nothing is going to stop her from wearing it and he from wanting to see her wearing it.

So why should a woman wear sexy lingerie? One obvious reason is she wants to be appealing to her boyfriend, husband or lover! Simply put sexy lingerie puts an uncomplicated image in front of her lover that she wants to be romantic, have sex or otherwise engage in sexual play. Wearing sexy lingerie is similar to a football player putting on his uniform. When he does he and others around him know that a football game is about to occur. Does he do this in a vacuum? Does he do this in the men's room at his wife's office? No, wearing sexy lingerie is done in a certain context, often at a certain time, although not necessarily. Wearing a sheer babydoll is unmistakably a suggestion that she wants sex, fondling, forplay or some other sexual activity. Sure she could strip naked and say F@#$ me! Or she could simply lay down on the floor, spread her legs and point to herself but that is kind of crude. Wearing sexy lingerie is an accepted means of saying without speaking.

A woman should wear sexy lingerie because it, like putting on business attire is a means of showing her co-workers, boss and family that it is now time for work, not play. Wearing sexy lingerie can put a woman in the mood because she likely associates sexy lingerie with pleasure, arousal, adult activity and sex. These associations are very powerful just as telling your 9 year old to put his swimming trunks on! As he is racing into the bedroom to get them on is he thinking he is going to the dentist, church or school? No, he is thinking how much he loves going to the swimming pool in part because he recalls instinctively how much fun he has had at the pool. Associations are part of our lives and we know it.

Finally and perhaps most importantly a woman should wear sexy lingerie if she loves the way she looks and feels when she put sexy lingerie on. Wearing a new outfit, new shoes, or jewelry can make a woman or man feel good about themselves. Simple things like "you smell good" or "is that a new tie" or simply "have you lost weight" are things that can make our day. If wearing sexy and revealing lingerie makes you feel good or brings back good, even great memories then that is a great reason why women should wear sexy lingerie.

Is Lingerie an Aphrodisiac?

Is lingerie an aphrodisiac or what is the lure for women to wear sexy lingerie? Lingerie is an effective aphrodisiac but we don't usually look on it as a love potion or something that draws a man towards a woman. So why do women wear lingerie and does it have an effect on a man's libido?

Lingerie is, after all only clothing that women wear although it may be inappropriate for wearing in public, particularly in cold weather. Lingerie is considered by many to be superfluous, unnecessary and even a complete waste of money. So why do women continue to purchase it, wear it and perhaps even believe that it increases their sex appeal or sexual desirability? The lingerie business is a multi million dollar business and it is so routine and pervasive you can find it in virtually every mall in the country in the form of a Victoria's Secret or many department stores, not to mention the proliferation of sexy lingerie sites on the internet.

Is lingerie a continuation of the attempt by men to turn women into sex objects by making them into men's sexual fantasies? To some degree this is likely as wearing sexy lingerie does encourage men to look at women as objects of sexual desire. While true to some degree what is wrong with that? Do women solely wear sexy lingerie for the purposes of men's sexual fantasies? In part yes but this ignores how sexy lingerie makes women feel. Certainly some women wear sexy lingerie solely for the men in their lives while they get no benefits or enjoyment from the practice. On the other hand it is naive and unlikely that all women wear lingerie solely for men.

So does lingerie act as an aphrodisiac? The answer is yes and the reason may at least in part be that men are such visual creatures. Men overwhelmingly enjoy pornography as compared to women. Men enjoy seeing images of women naked or in videos or even in person in the form of strip shows and magazines. Women don't seem to be nearly as interested in images of men naked and while they do seem to enjoy male strip shows they do not engage in this form of entertainment nearly as much.



Men are at the center of women wearing sexy lingerie as they express the desire to see women in various states of undress as sexy lingerie suggests. Men's interest in sexy lingerie has little to do with the lingerie as it is really about the suggestive nature of sexy lingerie and what it represents. Sexy lingerie is not particularly important but the woman wearing the lingerie is the primary factor. Sexy lingerie suggests that a woman is ready, willing and able to engage in sexual activity. Sexy lingerie clearly sends a message to men that she desires sexual activity in a clear, unambiguous manner which is so important in today's society. This is not to be confused with men using the defense for such sexually related crimes that a woman is asking for it when she wears sexually suggestive clothing as short skirts or suggestive outer wear. Just as that defense is routinely ignored, it is not likely that a woman would argue that she was raped when she was in a situation where she was wearing overtly sexually suggestive lingerie in a bedroom with her husband or boyfriend. Nevertheless when a woman says no, regardless of her state of dress or undress a man's failure to cease and desist is still rape in virtually all jurisdictions and rightly so.

While women wear sexy lingerie for a myriad of reasons one of them is certainly to suggest or encourage sexual activity. One cannot rationally argue that a woman wearing sexy lingerie is not an aphrodisiac but that does not give a man license to do what he please with her. A woman can put on the sexiest lingerie available and even become totally naked and that does not allow a man to force her to do whatever he wants. A woman retains the right to change her mind at any time, for any reason. This is not unfair but totally fair and reasonable. This does not alter the fact that wearing sexy lingerie is an aphrodisiac as it encourages, suggests and promotes sexual intimacy between a man and a woman. In virtually all cases wearing this lingerie is the first step in encouraging sexual relations and is in the minds of women and men when sexy lingerie is purchased.

Pasties are for Bad Girls

Pasties are for bad girls, sexy girls and just girls. Bad girls love pasties as they are nipple covers that girls use in a variety of ways when wearing a bra is not good enough or simply not possible. Pasties are for girls who want to show off their boobs but not their nipples. While pasties have been around for a long, long time the latest incarnation is even sexier.

Pasties are an old school nipple cover that often had tassels that dancers swung around suggestively with the audience entranced as the dancer even made the tassels swing in opposite directions. That was then as burlesque performers and nude dancers performed in front of captivated audience that enjoyed the naked and near naked performers with fans and slow, suggestive dances that showed only portions of the female anatomy.



Today pasties still have tassels but more and more they are adhesive pasties with designs of skull and cross bones, marijuana leaves, lips, x's and many, many more. Pasties are worn by strippers, to be sure but also by girly girls who get off on exposing their breasts but not their nipples. Coincidentally or not many local ordinances do not consider a woman to be naked or topless unless her nipples are exposed. So she is nearly nude but not in violation of any local ordinances. The same is true for many topless dancers.

The explosion in popularity of these pasties is not only escaping any local popo's but simply because they are so cool looking, colorful and naughty. In the past wearnig a skimpy bra top with a bikini panty was required beach wear. That is passe' as now wearing pasties with a skimpy g-string panty is the least amount of beach wear a girl can wear without being totally naked. Pasties are certain to draw attention to a girls chest and many girls are just fine with that. Many of the pasties actually offer more coverage than some bra tops thus it is the idea more than the reality that draws girls to these pasties.

Sexy Lingerie, Stripper Wear and Shapewear

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Vedette shapewear is our newest shapewear provider as we have been asked repeatedly to carry shapewear and shapers. We know that part of being confident and self assured is looking as good as you can look and that is where shapewear is needed. Today's form fitting, flimsy and sexy styles often lead girls to want shapewear that gives them a flattering look and feel. Our sexy shapwewear is just what you are looking for in shapers, girdles and panty shapers.

Shapers and Shapewear for Sexy Girls

Shapers and shapewear are terms used to describe body shapers and girdles that shape, lift and define sexy girls bodies. Sexy girls love wearing shapers and shapewear as they help them look sexy and shapely. These undergarments are meant to shape a girls form making it look great under dresses, gowns and anything she chooses to wear. When you are looking for shapewear you might want to keep a couple of things in mind. Shapers are made for a particular purpose and thus you need to buy that shaper to deal with a single or more than one problem area. Shapers range from shaper panties to full length shapers that extend from the bust or below the bust to the upper ankles. Shapers rarely are made to shape the bust as you must wear a bra in addition to the shaper. Women accumulate fat in many areas but mainly in the stomach area, lower stomach, buttocks and thigh areas. Choosing the right shaper for you is simply a matter of what you are wearing and what area or areas you would like shaped. Many women are purchasing the mid calf body shaper which addresses problem areas from under the bust through the abdominal and buttocks area. Unfortunately shapers don't cause you to lose weight only to shape and sculpt the area for a short period of time.





Once you have decided what area or areas need shaping then the next decision you will need to make is the amount of compression you will require. Compression is simply the pressure you want the garment to assert against your body to hold it in. A general rule is you will need medium compression for minor problem areas. If you have a minimal need for shaping or compression then the medium compression will do the job. If you feel you need a good amount of compression then a strong compression garment will be required. Strong compression is generally the greatest compression you can purchase and the garment is intended to hold the area in and exert stronger compression than a medium compression garment. The febrics or materials used to provide the compression are lycra spandex, nylon or even latex rubber. The stronger compression garments generally require latex rubber to provide the least amount of stretch while spandex is going to provide the least amount of compression. An example of the strongest compression with latex rubber is the latex waist cincher which is an excellent shaper girdle to provide the most compression available.

Vibrating Panties

Vibrating panties are panties that vibrate a woman in that special place. Vibrating panties are panties that are supposed to send girls into orgasmic convulsions in private but more importantly in public. I assume by now that everyone knows about personal vibrators and millions of women use them occassionally, frequently to daily, depending on their own particular needs and desires. While vibrators have been around for many, many years it is only recently that vibrating panties have been marketed to women as well as the men in their lives.

So what women want to slip on a pair of panties with a vibrator in them and then go for a walk in the park or better yet, at the mall or other public place. The answer may surprise you as many women are wearing them right now and you would never know. This is working on a couple of different levels as vibrating panties are worn under a woman's clothing, skirt, jeans or whatever. Thus you would not normally know she was wearing a pair of vibrating panties unless she told you. Or would you? The panties can be thongs, g-strings and full bottom panties or briefs. Some have bullet vibrators that rests against her clitoris while others are remote control vibrating panties that have a controller that works up to 30 feet away. So what is the appeal?



Well first of all the obvious reason is that many women enjoy having an orgasm in bed, in the shower, kitchen, restaurant and yes, even at the mall. Unlike men, women can reach orgasm without manual stimulation and the vibrator pressing against her clitoris is the easiest method of reaching that orgasm. Couples are purchasing these remote control vibrating panties as a means of enhancing their sex life. It can be great fun to have your girlfriend or wife slip on a pair of these panties and off you go to eat, shop or stroll. The man has the control- they like that don't they? He decides when to turn on the vibrations and how powerful the vibrations shall be. When she least expects is he turns her on as well as the power and of course she has to deal with these awesome vibrations at the most unexpected times and places. Talk about being spontaneous!

Clearly these vibrating panties are not for the shy or weak of heart but many couples find this good, clean adult fun and why not? The next time you see a gorgeous woman at the mall jump for joy she may be wearing a vibrating panty and the man in her life may be aroused as well as enjoying every minute of it.

Lingerie Articles & Squidoo Lenses

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Lingerie Articles : As our site is primarily about lingerie we have selected some of the many articles we have written over the years about the subject near and dear to our hearts and minds.

Sexy Lingerie: Wear it to the Boardroom, Movies or Clubs Lingerie is not only worn in the bedroom as it is sexy clubwear, great for the clubs and movies or out on a special date with your lover or husband or both. Wear sexy corsets, camisoles, sexy bras and sheer tops out of the bedroom.

Men Buying Lingerie - The Do's and Dont's Part 1 Men love lingerie and have since forever. The problem can be that they don't really know how to buy sexy lingerie for the woman in their lives. Our guide gives you some points and tips on how to buy the lovely woman in your life sexy lingerie.

Sexy Panties: G-Strings, Thongs, Boy Shorts and Crotchless Panties Women love sexy panties, panties and sexy underwear and so do the men in their lives. We do a run down on the latest sexy panties so you have a good idea what to look for and what to avoid in the wonderful world of sexy panties.

Sexy Lingerie - How does it make a woman feel? Part 1 Wearing sexy lingerie makes a woman look and feel desirable, sexy and sensuous. The way sexy lingerie makes a woman feel is one of the best reasons for a woman to buy and wear sexy lingerie.

Want to throw a Lingerie Party? Are you going to throw a theme party? Is the theme sexy lingerie? If so you may want to take a read of this article as we explore the fun of throwing a lingerie party for the girls or girls and guys.

How to take sexy lingerie pictures? Your lover looks hot and sexy in her underwear and you want to take her picture. Assuming she agrees then you need to read our tips and suggestions on how to make her look adorable and sexy. Avoid making her look vulgar and unhappy as taking a woman's picture in her panties takes more planning and skill than you may imagine.

Sexy Lingerie - How to care for your Lingerie?

Sexy Bras - Sexy Lingerie There are bras and then there are sexy bras and you will love the way you look and feel in a sexy bra.



Squidoo Lenses:

Sexy Plus Size Lingerie Buying sexy lingerie in plus size is fun as you are full figured and curvaceous, voluptuous even. Lingerie looks so hot on a woman with curves in all the right places. Show off those sizzling curves and heavenly hips on a woman who is just a Goddess!

Sexy Lingerie - An Erotic Honeymoon Adventure Getting married? You may need to wear the sexiest honeymoon lingerie you can imagine as these memories will last a lifetime.

Garter Belts are Sexy Lingerie The title should be garter belts are the sexiest lingerie in the world. Yes I said sexiest without a doubt.

Club Wear Club wear is clothing with a very sexy attitude. Don't wear it if you are afraid of being a sexy doll!