Thursday, November 12, 2009

Women Love Men Who Wear Sexy Underwear!




Women love men who wear men's sexy underwear as women appreciate the way it makes a man look. Sexy underwear for men is a subject many women discuss with their girlfriends and the men in their lives and they indicate they wish men would wear the sexy underwear more often.

Few will disagree that women wear sexy underwear, panties and bras for themselves as well as the men in their lives. Men on the other hand rarely wear sexy underwear for themselves or more importantly the women in their lives. Perhaps it is fear, embarrassment or just habit but men often appear in the bedroom wearing those ugly tighty whities or even boxers while they expect the woman in their lives to wear skimpy panties, crotch less panties and open bust bras and lingerie. Are men lazy, frightened or just unaccustomed to wearing sexy underwear? While it is unrealistic to expect that men would wear sexy underwear as often as women, at least in the short term, isn't it time for men to step it up? Without going into too much detail women are used to being sex objects and while many enjoy being put on a pedestal others find it demeaning and sexist. Men though are guilty of putting many women on that sexual object pedestal by insisting, suggesting or demanding that the girl in his life wear naughty underwear and often not so shyly suggesting that his girl show off in public as though she was a trophy. So why can't a man show off his package at least in the bedroom?

I don't do that kind of stuff, or I am not gay or I look hot without wearing man panties or sexy underwear are just some of the excuses men make when it comes to wearing hot and sexy underwear for men. We do not live in a culture that starts conditioning men at an early age that they take care of their skin, hair and bodies the way women do. Plenty of men work out look and smell good but we persist in thinking that only gay men wear sexy underwear or take care of themselves. Even if only partially true this is a very sad statement about and for men. No one wants men to become women as women have that very well in hand. On the other hand many women want the men in their lives to take more care in their appearance and often men shrug it off successfully.



Sexy men's underwear is not a revolutionary concept as many men including sexy gay men indeed take better care of their appearance than straight men. This is the subject of many jokes and anecdotes as many men and women consider that a good looking man must be gay and they are often correct. A man who is well groomed, hair, skin, and teeth as well as impeccably groomed is a homosexual. Somehow straight men are left to be something less and the straight women who want a heterosexual man in her life must often wish he were "more gay". After all if taking care of oneself is a gay characteristic then why not wish for more gay men in the world.

Straight men are lazy both physically and in terms of the time spent looking sexy for the woman in their lives. While it doesn't take much time to buy some sexy underwear most men don't bother. They will often allow their girlfriends or wives to do the shopping for them as though they were little children. While this is not all straight men, gay men seem to relish doing the shopping for themselves and the results are obvious. This is not about bashing straight men and exalting the virtues of gay men but on the other hand straight men don't often listen to their girl friends and wives. Wearing sexy underwear or men's lingerie to a man is really not that different than a woman wearing sexy lingerie. Men need to get more comfortable with their own sexuality or as it is often put get in touch with their feminine side. In doing so he sends her a message that it is important to him how he looks to her and what she thinks of him in sexual terms. Here are a couple of things a man can do to increase his sexual quotient with the woman he loves.

1. Don't wear a thong unless you have the body for it and you probably don't! I didn't say wear clown shoes just because she asks you to so keep some of your dignity if you have any after winning the belching and farting contest.

2. Do wear bun huggers or those men's underwear that is similar to a woman's boy shorts. They are half way between briefs and boxers only snug and make you look like you have a big penis! Every guy wants a bigger penis and every woman wants a man who has a big penis. Forget that stuff about size doesn't matter unless you still believe politicians don't lie constantly.

3. Shave your privates as it makes your package look cleaner and bigger. There is that word again bigger. Even if your girl doesn't tell you she has never faked an orgasm you aren't dumb enough to believe it are you?

4. Buy some muscle shirts, snug fitting t-shirts in many colors and throw away those ill fitting t-shirts that you got from the Dodgers when they won the pennant in 1907. They look ratty, you look ratty and when she wakes up she sees you in it and she runs into the bathroom to barf. You thought she was on her period. Gee you will believe anything, won't you?

5. If you have a beard, lose it. If you let your facial hair grow trim it daily, yes daily. If you have a mustache lose it you look like a porn star and not one with a big wanker.

6. Trim the nose hair, hair in your ears and trim those eyebrows. Do you want a girlfriend with a unibrow or a mustache?

7. Go to a hair stylist! Find a gorgeous one who will lie to you to get extra tips but if your girlfriend likes it tell her your hair stylist is hot and she won't believe you. If she finally meets the hair stylist you can always tell her you told her the hair stylist was gorgeous.

8. Smell good- all the time! I did not say put a bottle of cologne on you every morning I said smell good all the time. Perhaps the smell of soap turns her on, perhaps the cologne or perhaps the smell of beer on your breath.

9. Get a robe and join the 21st century. Get a nice summer and winter robe. Do you notice all the hot guys wear them in the movies? Wear it open with your hot manties underneath. Manties are man panties, get used to the name and embrace it as it is you.

10. If you have body hair get rid of it, now! Get up and get rid of it now! Women don't love man hair, no one loves man hair particularly the gross thatch on one's back or chest. Have it removed and rationalize the pain as the price of being a hot guy.

11. Brush your teeth! Floss your teeth and put the toilet seat down!

12. Wear boxers sparingly but wear them. Have a black pair, burgundy, dark green and dark blue. All masculine colors.

13. Start smoking a pipe- just kidding! Don't smoke a cigar in your girlfriends face! Don't belch, fart or otherwise emit noises from orifices.

14. Occasionally don't wear any underwear at all! Show her you have some mystery as you take your pants off and your Johnson plops out, or for most of you guys plips out.

15. Wear a men's thong that has a built in cock ring that will keep you semi hard and make you look like that dream she had about the pool boy the other night that she didn't tell you about. I know I said don't wear a thong, just don't wear a regular thong is what I said.

If you follow all of my suggestions either your wife or girlfriend will be in lust with you all of the time or most all other women will be and you won't need her anyway.

Garter Belt- How to and Where to Wear a Garter Belt




How to wear a garter belt and where to wear a garter belt is explained here. A garter belt is a belt of sorts that is worn to hold your stockings up on your legs. The garter belt has been used by women for ages in an attempt to wear stockings comfortably and to keep the stockings from sagging or falling down around her ankles.

Garter belts are made of different fabrics and are held up in a variety of ways as well. The garter belt of previous decades as well as centuries did not have the benefit of the "miracle" fabrics we are accustomed to today. I am referring to stretch lycra spandex that stretches to fit and women wear frequently in many garments. In the past the garter belt with often made of satin or a brocade fabric with no stretch whatsoever. Thus the garter belt had to fit snugly in order to do its job. The closures often consisted of hook and eye closures also found on other foundation garments of the time like girdles and corsets. The garter belt was worn just above the hips or lower waist as it is today. Today though the content of many garter belts is often made of a high content of spandex allowing many more inexpensive garter belts to have no closures at all as the garment is pulled on and fits much like a pair of high waisted panties. Many women find these cheaper garter belts to be novelty like as they may not hold up her stockings all day where she is walking, sitting and standing constantly.

Garter belts have hangers ranging from four usually to as many as 6 or even 8 on occasion. These hangers literally hand from the belt via stretch straps and at the end is a fastener to hook onto the top of the stockings. The fastener is generally a metal eyelet that reduces down to grasp the stocking and keep it in place on the woman's thighs. These are strategically placed on her legs to keep the stockings up and in place.

Where a woman wears a sexy garter belt is dependant on a lot of factors all up to her. Garter belts fell out of fashion in the early 1960's in large part due to the arrival of pantyhose. Millions of women threw their garter belts away as they were at least in part viewed as uncomfortable and unwelcome now that a one piece marvel known as pantyhose had arrived. No more taking the time to put the garter belt on, adjust her stockings and then have the hangers or the garter belt itself show through tight or clingy dresses. Skirt were another matter as the stockings often allowed her thighs to be exposed which was considered unacceptable.

Today women wear garter belts in a limited number of settings as many women don't bother wearing pantyhose anymore and garter belts have a stigma attached to them. While not entirely negative the stigma is as a result of the "reputation" of sorts that has attached to the garter belt. Since the garter belt was fashionable, then discarded the reemergence has left some remnants. Garter belts are considered retro lingerie to most and simply too sexually charged for some. In other words wearing garter belts means something more than simply getting dressed. They are superfluous to most in that either wear no hosiery or pantyhose but why wear garter belts and stockings. It is just this association that causes the garter belt to be such a necessary accessory in a sexy lingerie wardrobe.

How to Buy Lingerie for your Body!

How to buy lingerie for your body is a guide on what to look for when purchasing sexy lingerie. Women need some help when it comes to how to buy sexy lingerie for their body unless they are a perfect 36-24-36 with a tan; no body fat and an unlimited budget then go directly to Flirtylingerie.com as we are waiting for you.

The purpose of lingerie is arguably to make a woman look or appear sexier than she already is, give her self confidence being "nearly" naked and promote healthy body images. Now while that is an ambitious agenda the truth is done correctly buying the right lingerie can go a long ways toward accomplishing these things. Unfortunately many women and men do not go into buying lingerie in this manner. It is often "I need something sexy for my vacation". While there is absolutely nothing wrong with this approach, it doesn't address what will make her look her best, project her sexuality in an assertive, positive manner and arouse both her and her mate. Often men are worse in that they simply want their girlfriend to wear some hideous outfit that simply exposes her breasts, butt and sexual region with no concern as to how she feels about herself parading around in a "clown" outfit disguised as sexy lingerie. It isn't sexy if it doesn't allow the wearer to feel sexy. There isn't much sexy about a woman who is embarrassed, ashamed or feeling ridiculous in a garment.

Buying lingerie for your body requires knowing your body and what you do and don't like about it. Ask yourself "what do I love, like and hate about my body". Once you answer that question for yourself or your mate then let’s get to the next step. Some women don't love their ______________(fill in the blank) for one reason or another. Some will say stomach, thighs, nose, weight or any other of a number of body parts that they don't like. Other will say they love their breasts, stomach, legs, neck or another set of parts and you should buy garments to accentuate the good parts and avoid garments that show off the bad parts. No, this is not rocket science but amazingly many women and even more men ignore the basic rule.

As an example if you love your breasts either because they are big, perfectly formed, and perky or just perfect that consider a corset. Corsets push your breasts up and out and draw eyes towards them while slimming your waist giving you that hour glass figure. If you are a plus size gal then don't by all means purchase flowing, blousy, tent like lingerie. Wear structured, snug fitting garments like corsets and body stockings. Wear a skimpy skirt that defines your waist and stockings that elongate your torso. Consider wearing high heels that give you height and proportionality.

Color is an essential consideration as well as often times your favorite color may not be your friend in your underwear. Black is your friend and white is your enemy. The exception to this is of course dark skinned women and women with a good tan. The color is not good because your skin tones will look so hot in white while a pasty, fluorescent white skin with a white teddy will look washed out.

Fit is also very important but lingerie is not meant to be worn all day and is supposed to be body flattering. So snug, not tight is great. The reason so much lingerie is made with spandex or cut smaller is that you are going to be showing off the goods, honey. While there is loose, flowing, comfortable lingerie we aren't concerned with it here and may or may not fall into the granny panty category and that is not sexy. Don't fall prey to the idea that to be sexy you must be skimpy like a pair of g-string or thong panties. In fact I think boy shorts are the sexiest panty made as they hug a woman's figure, show off every part of a woman's lower region to its best advantage and is very comfortable to boot. Truth is the healthier and happier a woman is the sexier she is!

Sexy Lingerie Articles for your reading enjoyment


We offer sexy lingerie articles for your reading pleasure and education. Who reads sexy lingerie articles you ask and the answer is anyone who enjoys sexy lingerie or better put anyone who has a pulse. While most people buy lingerie don't give much thought to the lingerie or who makes it or how you can buy lingerie that best suits your body type, others want all the information they can get.

We offer sexy lingerie articles on so many subjects you won't have the time to read them all. Some of the articles are suggested by customers who enjoy burlesque, thus the article Burlesque - The Art of the Strip Tease . Burlesque and lingerie are intertwined due in part to the naughty stripping that some performers engage in during the act but Burlesque is so much more. Actually anything naughty has something to do with lingerie or so it seems.

Often time men come into our boutique or ask us online to help them shop for their wives and girlfriends. In partial response to that we wrote the article Men Buying Lingerie - The Do's and Don'ts Part I . While men aren't dumb and they know what they like to see their girlfriends wear in the bedroom they don't always know their sizes or styles and a little professional help is always a plus. Buying lingerie is one of those things that people, particularly women think is easy as after all they are women and they wear lingerie so what is the big deal? No big deal but often a woman has certain "problem areas" or special requests that need to be addressed so that special occasion goes off without a hitch.

Speaking of special occasion’s lingerie is a special occasion item without a doubt. Who can think of a honeymoon, Valentine's Day, anniversary or romantic weekend or vacation and not think of lingerie? That is right, lingerie is a universal item forever associated with romance and sex! Perhaps that is one of the reasons we wrote What Lingerie do I take on my Special Vacation? . Couples go on vacation for a lot of reasons but one of them is certainly to be alone, enjoy each others company, see sights, enjoy great food and have sex! Who can argue with that? So it is a great idea to be prepared for the evening, the romance and oh yeah, the great sex!

But what if you can't get away and you need to get away? Well there is always the bedroom with the doors closed and the kids heavily sedated. Just kidding about the closed doors. Setting the Mood for a Romantic Evening was written for every couple to get away at home or in a hotel room or a public park if that is your thing. We know what sexy lingerie is used for and that is often to initiate romance, to set the mood and to send that unmistakable message "take me"! So we write about everything we and our staff can think of that has to do with, about and surrounding lingerie.

How about going shopping with your lover, husband or boy friend as a means of starting the romance off in a different way? Sexy Lingerie Shopping with a Lover or Husband is a guide on how to enjoy shopping on a whole new dimension. Shopping is just shopping until you are buying or browsing in a sexy lingerie store with the partner who is going to spend the evening with you and hopefully enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Don't forget that we also write about another world of romance and that is our Sex Toy Articles that explore all of the aspects of the source of so much happiness for couples. Sex toys are a subject many don't know much about but would like to learn.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Why Should Women Wear Sexy Lingerie?


Why should women wear sexy lingerie in the bedroom or before sexual activity? What is the point of wearing sexy lingerie when the lingerie ends up getting removed shortly after putting it on? Does sexy lingerie really serve any purpose other than helping make a woman a sex object?

I was reading a blog the other day from a feminist and it stood for the position that sexy lingerie is a bad thing and objectifies women as sexual objects and is dehumanizing to her. At first I was amused that these feminists are so off base that they don't get it. How wrong can a feminist be to dismiss the value of sexy lingerie to women but on the other hand it was indeed a woman writing the blog post. After reading it again I decided I still disagreed with the post but thought it was a good starting point for presenting the opposite side of the argument. It is my belief as a woman that it is up to the individual woman as to what she wears or doesn't wear in bed, before sex or to work. This tyranny of the feminist left is over reaching as it presumes to tell women what they can't and cannot wear. Why in the world would the fringe left or the wacky right presume to think they can dictate what anyone wears? But this ignores the question as to whether the wearing of "sexy" lingerie is a means of men objectifying a woman?

Certainly we can agree that sexy lingerie does expose a woman's body in a very suggestive and sexual way. Much of the sexy lingerie is sheer, transparent, short, skimpy and naughty. Thus a simplistic approach to the wearing of sexy lingerie would argue that that in itself is making a sexual object out of a woman's body. What this argument ignores is a woman's free will to present herself as a sexual being which she is regardless of what she or others think. All of us are sexual beings and there is nothing we can do about that. How we project ourselves is entirely up to us. The argument that it is "men's attempt to make women a sex object" is assuming so much simply for the sake of many feminist's agendas to make men responsible for all that is wrong with the world. In this case men are innocent of anything other than enjoying women's sexuality and there is nothing wrong with that.

The reason women wear sexy lingerie is as varied as there are women. No doubt some women wear sexy lingerie to please the man in their lives. If this is not voluntary then of course it is inappropriate at best. Forcing a woman to wear any garment is wrong but on the other hand anything a couple does in the privacy of their own home that is not illegal is perfectly appropriate. Wearing sexy lingerie is a means to an end that apparently many women enjoy but there is no doubt that men's desire is a component. Trying to insert yourself into the decisions of adults in the bedroom is simply a waste of time regardless of the reason. Free will is free will and to suggest that women only wear lingerie for the sake of men is patently false.

Feminism has done much for women although what it has done in the bedroom is difficult to ascertain. Sexy lingerie is a garment that is often a prelude to sex and in many ways much of what goes on in a bedroom is for the sake of sexual gratification. Is it mistreating a woman if he climaxes and she doesn't? Is spanking her bottom gently or telling her to do something like "faster", "harder" or "don't stop" dominating her? Where do we stop if we get on the slippery slope of telling women or men for that matter what is and is not appropriate?

I suggest we stay out of the bedroom altogether with our political agenda's and religious beliefs if the parties in the bedroom don't ask for the direction. It is legitimate for feminists to express their opinions but like politics and religion it is best to keep a hands off position on the subject of sex which is after all a major component of buying, wearing and introducing lingerie into the bedroom. I suggest most women dismiss the arguments that wearing sexy lingerie objectifies a woman as perhaps it does, perhaps it doesn't but who really cares? In some ways it is like preaching to people that chocolate is bad for you because it has sugar, caffeine and causes one to gain weight. It clearly appears that this is the case but it is also delicious, satisfying and millions are not about to stop eating it for those reasons. Sex and sexy lingerie and sexual enjoyment and men and women are so intertwined that virtually nothing is going to stop her from wearing it and he from wanting to see her wearing it.

So why should a woman wear sexy lingerie? One obvious reason is she wants to be appealing to her boyfriend, husband or lover! Simply put sexy lingerie puts an uncomplicated image in front of her lover that she wants to be romantic, have sex or otherwise engage in sexual play. Wearing sexy lingerie is similar to a football player putting on his uniform. When he does he and others around him know that a football game is about to occur. Does he do this in a vacuum? Does he do this in the men's room at his wife's office? No, wearing sexy lingerie is done in a certain context, often at a certain time, although not necessarily. Wearing a sheer babydoll is unmistakably a suggestion that she wants sex, fondling, forplay or some other sexual activity. Sure she could strip naked and say F@#$ me! Or she could simply lay down on the floor, spread her legs and point to herself but that is kind of crude. Wearing sexy lingerie is an accepted means of saying without speaking.

A woman should wear sexy lingerie because it, like putting on business attire is a means of showing her co-workers, boss and family that it is now time for work, not play. Wearing sexy lingerie can put a woman in the mood because she likely associates sexy lingerie with pleasure, arousal, adult activity and sex. These associations are very powerful just as telling your 9 year old to put his swimming trunks on! As he is racing into the bedroom to get them on is he thinking he is going to the dentist, church or school? No, he is thinking how much he loves going to the swimming pool in part because he recalls instinctively how much fun he has had at the pool. Associations are part of our lives and we know it.

Finally and perhaps most importantly a woman should wear sexy lingerie if she loves the way she looks and feels when she put sexy lingerie on. Wearing a new outfit, new shoes, or jewelry can make a woman or man feel good about themselves. Simple things like "you smell good" or "is that a new tie" or simply "have you lost weight" are things that can make our day. If wearing sexy and revealing lingerie makes you feel good or brings back good, even great memories then that is a great reason why women should wear sexy lingerie.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Is Lingerie an Aphrodisiac?



Is lingerie an aphrodisiac or what is the lure for women to wear sexy lingerie? Lingerie is an effective aphrodisiac but we don't usually look on it as a love potion or something that draws a man towards a woman. So why do women wear lingerie and does it have an effect on a man's libido?

Lingerie is, after all only clothing that women wear although it may be inappropriate for wearing in public, particularly in cold weather. Lingerie is considered by many to be superfluous, unnecessary and even a complete waste of money. So why do women continue to purchase it, wear it and perhaps even believe that it increases their sex appeal or sexual desirability? The lingerie business is a multi million dollar business and it is so routine and pervasive you can find it in virtually every mall in the country in the form of a Victoria's Secret or many department stores, not to mention the proliferation of sexy lingerie sites on the internet.

Is lingerie a continuation of the attempt by men to turn women into sex objects by making them into men's sexual fantasies? To some degree this is likely as wearing sexy lingerie does encourage men to look at women as objects of sexual desire. While true to some degree what is wrong with that? Do women solely wear sexy lingerie for the purposes of men's sexual fantasies? In part yes but this ignores how sexy lingerie makes women feel. Certainly some women wear sexy lingerie solely for the men in their lives while they get no benefits or enjoyment from the practice. On the other hand it is naive and unlikely that all women wear lingerie solely for men.

So does lingerie act as an aphrodisiac? The answer is yes and the reason may at least in part be that men are such visual creatures. Men overwhelmingly enjoy pornography as compared to women. Men enjoy seeing images of women naked or in videos or even in person in the form of strip shows and magazines. Women don't seem to be nearly as interested in images of men naked and while they do seem to enjoy male strip shows they do not engage in this form of entertainment nearly as much.



Men are at the center of women wearing sexy lingerie as they express the desire to see women in various states of undress as sexy lingerie suggests. Men's interest in sexy lingerie has little to do with the lingerie as it is really about the suggestive nature of sexy lingerie and what it represents. Sexy lingerie is not particularly important but the woman wearing the lingerie is the primary factor. Sexy lingerie suggests that a woman is ready, willing and able to engage in sexual activity. Sexy lingerie clearly sends a message to men that she desires sexual activity in a clear, unambiguous manner which is so important in today's society. This is not to be confused with men using the defense for such sexually related crimes that a woman is asking for it when she wears sexually suggestive clothing as short skirts or suggestive outer wear. Just as that defense is routinely ignored, it is not likely that a woman would argue that she was raped when she was in a situation where she was wearing overtly sexually suggestive lingerie in a bedroom with her husband or boyfriend. Nevertheless when a woman says no, regardless of her state of dress or undress a man's failure to cease and desist is still rape in virtually all jurisdictions and rightly so.

While women wear sexy lingerie for a myriad of reasons one of them is certainly to suggest or encourage sexual activity. One cannot rationally argue that a woman wearing sexy lingerie is not an aphrodisiac but that does not give a man license to do what he please with her. A woman can put on the sexiest lingerie available and even become totally naked and that does not allow a man to force her to do whatever he wants. A woman retains the right to change her mind at any time, for any reason. This is not unfair but totally fair and reasonable. This does not alter the fact that wearing sexy lingerie is an aphrodisiac as it encourages, suggests and promotes sexual intimacy between a man and a woman. In virtually all cases wearing this lingerie is the first step in encouraging sexual relations and is in the minds of women and men when sexy lingerie is purchased.

Pasties are for Bad Girls



Pasties are for bad girls, sexy girls and just girls. Bad girls love pasties as they are nipple covers that girls use in a variety of ways when wearing a bra is not good enough or simply not possible. Pasties are for girls who want to show off their boobs but not their nipples. While pasties have been around for a long, long time the latest incarnation is even sexier.

Pasties are an old school nipple cover that often had tassels that dancers swung around suggestively with the audience entranced as the dancer even made the tassels swing in opposite directions. That was then as burlesque performers and nude dancers performed in front of captivated audience that enjoyed the naked and near naked performers with fans and slow, suggestive dances that showed only portions of the female anatomy.



Today pasties still have tassels but more and more they are adhesive pasties with designs of skull and cross bones, marijuana leaves, lips, x's and many, many more. Pasties are worn by strippers, to be sure but also by girly girls who get off on exposing their breasts but not their nipples. Coincidentally or not many local ordinances do not consider a woman to be naked or topless unless her nipples are exposed. So she is nearly nude but not in violation of any local ordinances. The same is true for many topless dancers.

The explosion in popularity of these pasties is not only escaping any local popo's but simply because they are so cool looking, colorful and naughty. In the past wearnig a skimpy bra top with a bikini panty was required beach wear. That is passe' as now wearing pasties with a skimpy g-string panty is the least amount of beach wear a girl can wear without being totally naked. Pasties are certain to draw attention to a girls chest and many girls are just fine with that. Many of the pasties actually offer more coverage than some bra tops thus it is the idea more than the reality that draws girls to these pasties.