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Lingerie and Sexy Clothes make me feel Sexy!

I am asked constantly why lingerie is so popular and also why do women seem to always be on the look out for sexy clothing ? The answer is in our title as lingerie and sexy clothes make every woman feel sexy! Women, as well as men to a lesser degree wear clothes that make them feel sexy and by extension look sexy as one begets the other. Looking sexy is a gift given to us by our creator and within limits we should exploit it in the pursuit of looking and feeling our best. Does this mean we tramp it up and look slutty and suggestive? Well, no not really but looking sexy is certainly within reason although if you ask 100 women what constitutes within reason you will likely get multiple answers to the question.




Are women simply looking for attention, seeking fufillment or just wanting to be recognized? All of those and many more as far as I can tell and for the most part they are a sign of a healthy and well adjusted individual. Is it true that it is better to look good than to feel good? Well, not really but we all know that when we feel good, we look good and on and on. Looking good is fundamental to our mental health and wanting to look good is a sign of good mental health. Is wanting to look trashy, trampy and downright outrageous good or bad. Here most would agree that looking good does have its limits. In other words a woman can go too far and cross the line or jump the shark when it comes to looking attractive.




We often see that person who has crossed the line but not as often as one might imagine. When you consider how free everyone in the free world is free to dress or not dress up then you might wonder what keeps everyone in line. After all there are no real fashion police and rarely do people actually express that opinion they may have voiced in private. So what keeps women, in this case from breaking all the rules? In all liklihood the answer is that the rules of society are strongly woven and breaking the societal rule is rarely if ever violated. Society is a strong incentive to stay within the lines and stick to the rules. Since the rules are rarely written down most women rarely get close to the edge.




Women want to look sexy and often do but the truth is they rarely break the rules for fear of being labeled outcasts. Outcasts are after all social deviants who are to be avoided on some if not all levels. So when you look at a woman who is "outside" the norms consider that she is likely not really outside any limits, only superficially scratching the limits. When was the last time you actually saw a woman who was violating the social rules about what to wear? The answer if rarely, if ever and even then the question has to be asked as to how far did she actually go? I submit that the violation is likely a minor infraction, at best. How far did she actually go in violating the societal norms the rest of us follow? Did she wear a hot pink bra with her navy top? Did you actually get a glimpse of her panties? Did you see her bra straps? How about her pants were too tight? Now I know those are pretty serious infractions but all in all very minor deviations from societies norms.



Why is it that there aren't more serious violations? Is it because the rules are the rules and breaking them is considered very violative and damaging to othe rest of us. I mean what if a young boy saw a 19 year old young womans underwear? Would the young boy be damaged beyond repair? What if a 75 year old widower saw a 17 year olds underwear? Would that cause 3 years of therapy? Of course not and you know it. The truth is the damage would be non existant. Sure the lawyers would run ads asking "have you been exposed to the excruciating exposure of a man's underpants"? As a society we all comport ourselves rather well as far as I can tell, don't you agree?

Are young women afraid that if they wear provocative clothing they will be exposed to the threat of having "asked for it" in the event they are raped? Not likely as we all know that you cannot accept and invite the horrible act of rape simply by the choice of what you wear over your body. No woman can ask for being raped although many rapists or wanna be rapists often take a run at it.

Society has a grip and a strong one at that on our behaviour and has placed limits on what we can wear, how we can dress, what we can expose and by and large we all follow the rule. Society makes its statement and we are all, most of us, more than willing to go along for the ride.

Flirty Lingerie or Sexy Lingerie?

Flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie, that is the question. Are you in the flirty lingerie camp or do you prefer the sexy, even slutty lingerie? After owning a lingerie web site for 10 years, and a retail store for four, I have come to a conclusion that there are two camps when it comes to what is desireable in lingerie. The flirty lingerie camp is younger, looking for boyshorts, cami sets and cute lingerie while the sexy lingerie camp is more into open bust, crotchless panties and revealing lingerie that gets a guys pulse rate going. What is this talk about camps? I thought this was a lingerie blog? Well it sure is a lingerie blog but after years of observation it is clear that not everyone is looking for the same thing or effect when it comes to lingerie.

A recent survey in England's Daily Mail suggests that some men aren't turned on by the strappy, complicated sexy lingerie that manufacturers seem to belived. Instead they suggest that simple, flirty and feminine lingerie is what gets the English men's blood boiling. "The classic image of a suspender set with a push-up bra is what most women imagine gets their chap going. As you'll see from the results overleaf, though, nothing could be further from the truth. Whether it's a simple white set-up with a sexy bow, or some cute polka dot pants, the items that score big with our panel - made up of myself, Simon Mills and Alex Bilmes - are those that suggest innocence and fun".

Now, the blokes across may or may not be on to something, but it does closely track purchase patterns by girls under 30. So is age a factor in the type of lingerie women as well as men purchase? The answer is yes! More interesting is why women buy sexier lingerie as they get older. Some answers are fairly obvious while others are more subtle. One likely answer is women get bolder, more confident as they get older and thus their tastes in all things change. The thinking goes that young women ages 20 through 29 are not as confident in bed, not as knowledable about sex and don't find the need or value in wearing sexy lingerie. The gaining of confidence is likely true as men and women need time to gain experience, maturity and confidence. It is a hard argument to make that a 19 year old woman is as experienced as a 30, 35 or 40 year old woman. This translates into a woman finding a value in sexy lingerie as she matures.

Similarly many women are in committed relationships as they get older while younger women may not be in such relationships. It may take these relationships for women to feel comfortable in buying and wearing sexy lingerie. Also men would tend to refrain to buy a one night stand or short term lingerie. It is undeniable that many women would not want to go through the ritual of wearing sexy lingerie after dating for a week or perhaps even a couple of months. Wearing sexy lingerie is an act that usually requires a woman to be in a relationship for a period of time rather than on a first date.

Different women find lingerie of value at different times in their lives. Many young women don't appreciate the value of lingerie for a variety of reasons. One may be that the men in their lives are not as interested in forplay or a romantic evening preferring to participate in sexual relations without the pre game of soft music, watching a video, soft lighting and so on. A larger number of women enjoy the total experience of a romantic evening and sexy lingerie is an integral part of this enjoyable experience. Many if not most women prefer men to take their time, arouse her, kiss her, make her feel special rather than slam, bam thank you maam! Small wonder!

We all remember the spontaniety of the first time we had sex, the urgency of making love in the car, at a friends house, when our parents were away and all that lust. As we age the definition of sex changes to some degree and along with that time women and men see sexy lingerie as a good thing. Regardless of the reasons flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie remains a question only now they both have their own time and place.