What is the best lingerie for your body?

Women ask on a regular basis, what is the best lingerie for her body? Women want to look their best, and the question demands the best answer possible. Of course a woman would not want to look her best in her lingerie but the trick is in choosing what makes a woman look her very sexy best. Most and perhaps all women have a body flaw, real or imagined, that they want to hide or a special body part that they want to accentuate to its best advantage. By the way, men are the same way but don't wear revealing lingerie very often. When you think about it they never display their bodies in the same manner. Or perhaps men do display their bodies but not in the same sexual manner, or perhaps women are simply more concerned about their appearance. Regardless of the reasons women want to know what sexy lingerie they should wear.

In general color is a tool women can and should use to their advantage. Black is a womans best friend as it is slimming as well so it is not a chance that women choose to wear black tops, dark pants and skirts as they optically allow a woman to hide any flaws she may have. In lingerie the options are about the same. Black is probably the most popular color in lingerie and is preferable to white, pastels, tans and nudes. White tends to add weight, particularly in stockings, panties and bras and is simply not flattering. Dark purples, deep reds and other very warm winter colors are always a good choice. Pinks-not really. Florals, seriously. Stay away from florals.

Fit is a good example of where women can get exactly what they weren't looking to get. While it might seem to be a good idea for women with a little extra weight to wear loose lingerie or clothing, the opposite is true. The rule is true for outerwear or underwear. A good fit, snug but not tight is especially true for lingerie. So a woman can sabotage herself with lingerie that is loose fitting. This is not to say that wearing tight lingerie is a good idea as it isn't. Proper fit is always the way to go for the best look as well as comfort. Remember a woman who smiles, feels good and confident is the most sexy woman around. So smiling is sexy as it is on the street or in the bedroom. A woman who looks relaxed, smiling and carefree is always preferable to a woman who looks uncomfortable, refuses to smile and just looks unhappy. Fit is a very important matter and it does matter in your lingerie. Don't be afraid to go a bit on the snug side as you are supposed to look sexy and wearing diapers does not qualify.

Style is probably the third but very important component in the best lingerie for your body. A woman with large breasts needs support and that can be extremely sexy. A great deal of looking good has to do with illusion. Not lying, or trickery but the illusion. Remember, first impressions are very important and the same is true of a woman in her sexy lingerie. Illusions are a woman with large, full, supple breasts that seem to be suspended in mid air. That means underwires and a good fit. Hollywood does it all the time. A woman with small to medium sized breasts seems to look very busty but it is all about the fit and a good push up bra. So what style is the best for you?

Busty women need to wear a corset or bustier, again due to the support issue. A good corset offers support as well as spill out cleavage, pushing up the breasts and showcasing them for the viewer. Corsets are awesome as they also draw in the waist giving a woman that desirable hour glass figure. Plus size and regular size women can both benefit from wearing  a corset, either in the bedroom or out on the town.

Booty shorts are a girls best friend or a mans best friend as men love the look of woman in lace booty shorts. A pair of stretch booty shorts may be all a woman needs to look the very best in her panties.

Shapewear, Shapers, Girdles and Compression Suits for Sexy Girls and Women

Shapewear, shapers and girdles are all a woman needs to look and feel her very best. Sometimes our weight gets away from us but using one of our shapewear, shapers or girdles can put you right back where you want to be and belong.

Sexy Teddies, Bodysuits for Sexy Girls!

Sexy Teddies, bodysuits for sexy girls are a wardrobe must that all women want to wear for all sorts of occasions. Sexy teddies, bodysuits for sexy girls add a dimension of versatility that women look forward to wearing to clubs, bars and private parties.

See Through Sheer Babydolls

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Buying Exotic Lingerie for your Girlfriend

Buying exotic lingerie for you girlfriend is a risk as it isn't just like all other lingerie. When you are buying exotic lingerie for your girlfriend you need to keep a number of things in mind so it will be a success and she won't want to return it or refuse to wear it.

The first thing is to remember is the thing that attracts many men to exotic lingerie is exactly why many women don't care for it. Right off of the bat it seems that there is a high degree of conflict when it comes to this very unique and sexy style of lingerie. Let's start with some basic descriptions, definitions or simply ideas to get us started. The term lingerie covers an enormous amount of ground although most of the men and women who don't buy sexy underwear on a regular basis don't know and really have no good reason to care. One analogy is that of a motorcycle that the insiders know is a great line, awesome racing pedigree and most men and virtually all women don't know that and again really have no reason to care much. That same reality or conflict exists in the lingerie world.

Lingerie is everything women wear under their clothing to begin with as bras, panties , shapers, camisoles and the like all can be described as lingerie. The sub categories stem from there and they are often just a term that is used by insiders, lingerie manufacturers and retailers and few others. That is not to say that there aren't a good number of women and even some men who are much more knowledgable about the subject but again most simply don't even care. Lingerie is worn by women for a relatively short period of their lives, from somewhere in the range of 16 to 18 or older all the way to perhaps 60 years old and this is an estimate as some women well wear it much later than that while others stopped wearing the garments much sooner.

Lingerie is associatd with sex, romance and the like and thus the reason for young girls and older women shunning or being shunned away from the idea of wearing such a garment. Lingerie is rather odd in that it is one of the few garments that young girls should not wear as what reason on earth would an 11 year old girl be doing wearing sexy lingerie or a 70 year old woman? I don't condone the 11 year old girl wearing any sexy lingerie as it suggests strongly that sexual activity is present and that is obviously inappropriate. The 70 year old woman is quite another matter and if she wants to wear it all the more power to her for doing so. Our society has many of these "unwritten rules" that most of us follow just because it seems like the right thing to do and who is to argue that societal norms should not be adhered to?

Now did you notice I slipped a ringer in there as I was saying why would an 11 year old girl be wearing "sexy lingerie"? Sexy lingerie is a sub section of lingerie as you likely know. Sexy lingerie by its mere title suggests that not all lingerie is not sexy and that is a fact. But who makes that decision? Well, you the consumer does ultimately, although the industry tries to establish some very, very loose guidelines. Remember I said loose as there is no guide, text, or anything else that says this is sexy and this is not.

So where does exotic lingerie fit into the picture? First the definition of exotic will give us some guidance as it means unusual, one of a kind and that is what makes it so popular and risky at the same time. Many women, not all, do not relish the idea of wearing anything that shows off their most intimate parts and that is particulary true of any flaws, real or perceived, and therein lies the rub. Exotic lingerie can and usually is skimpy, suggestive, less rather than more and it reveals a woman's bust, hips, butt, stomach and so on. Thus it isn't for every woman but there again you can see why it is so much in demand at least by some women and the men who love see them in almost their all together.

So all you have to do is go into a boutique, sex shop, lingerie department and ask for exotic lingerie? No, not quite as first of all many lingerie retailers don't even carry the stuff. It can be an issue of how is it to be displayed? Or we don't want to attract that kind of crowd! So it is often limited to sexy lingerie boutiques, online sites and porn stores that carry xxx tapes and a smattering of the really sexy stuff.

So what do you do when you do find it, you buy it and your girl or wife won't wear it or only wears it that one time and then it is sentenced to life in her panty drawer never to be worn again? The solution to this problem is either solved before you buy it or shortly thereafter or forget about it. Remember I said that many women and that may include the gorgeous creature in your life who won't wear it or will only wear it once and then wants to return it to get her or your money back. Keep in mind that due to the nature of this type of lingerie in particular it may be impossible to return it due to the packaging or what body parts it touches intimately. So what is a guy to do when he encounters this dilemna?

How do you sell ice to the eskimos? The likely answer is you don't as they aren't that stupid. But how do you get a woman to wear something that may show off her unsexiest parts? Most women have body image issues, some minimal and some rather significant. So you want her to ignore years of fears, concerns and down right emotional problems when it comes to her body and show off all of her deeply hidden issues concerning her stomach, thighs, butt and the like? Not likely!

Here are a couple of ideas but keep in mind that much work has to be done before you buy her anything. I don't suggest that there is any magic fix to some of these issues. First you must establish a real, demonstrable sense of trust in your relationship. She must trust you aren't going to ridicule her, laugh at her, call her silly for her thoughts or the like. This could take days, weeks, months or years. If it isn't worth the effort then either buy her jewelry, candy, flowers, shoes or any number of other items. Lingerie is a great couples gift but it does come with some baggage. Buy her some safe or safer lingerie items like a chemise, corset , camisole set or many other items that aren't nearly as sexy but are cute, and make her look awesome.



Keep her in mind when buying sexy lingerie as she not you has to wear it and if she doesn't like the way she looks, regardless of what you say, she simply won't wear it or she won't wear it often. Consider her feelings when she walks in front of you and she feels fat, unsexy, hideous and that is not to say she looks like any of these descriptions but the issue is does she think she does? Encouraging words at a time like this are essential but may not do much so don't be surprised. Of course a woman wants to be told "you look great", "you look hot" or simply "wow". Of course you must offer her encouragement, praise and it helps if you actually mean it but it may simply not be enough as it is very, very difficult for most women to wear things they think make them look ridiculous.

Lingerie and Sexy Clothes make me feel Sexy!

I am asked constantly why lingerie is so popular and also why do women seem to always be on the look out for sexy clothing ? The answer is in our title as lingerie and sexy clothes make every woman feel sexy! Women, as well as men to a lesser degree wear clothes that make them feel sexy and by extension look sexy as one begets the other. Looking sexy is a gift given to us by our creator and within limits we should exploit it in the pursuit of looking and feeling our best. Does this mean we tramp it up and look slutty and suggestive? Well, no not really but looking sexy is certainly within reason although if you ask 100 women what constitutes within reason you will likely get multiple answers to the question.




Are women simply looking for attention, seeking fufillment or just wanting to be recognized? All of those and many more as far as I can tell and for the most part they are a sign of a healthy and well adjusted individual. Is it true that it is better to look good than to feel good? Well, not really but we all know that when we feel good, we look good and on and on. Looking good is fundamental to our mental health and wanting to look good is a sign of good mental health. Is wanting to look trashy, trampy and downright outrageous good or bad. Here most would agree that looking good does have its limits. In other words a woman can go too far and cross the line or jump the shark when it comes to looking attractive.




We often see that person who has crossed the line but not as often as one might imagine. When you consider how free everyone in the free world is free to dress or not dress up then you might wonder what keeps everyone in line. After all there are no real fashion police and rarely do people actually express that opinion they may have voiced in private. So what keeps women, in this case from breaking all the rules? In all liklihood the answer is that the rules of society are strongly woven and breaking the societal rule is rarely if ever violated. Society is a strong incentive to stay within the lines and stick to the rules. Since the rules are rarely written down most women rarely get close to the edge.




Women want to look sexy and often do but the truth is they rarely break the rules for fear of being labeled outcasts. Outcasts are after all social deviants who are to be avoided on some if not all levels. So when you look at a woman who is "outside" the norms consider that she is likely not really outside any limits, only superficially scratching the limits. When was the last time you actually saw a woman who was violating the social rules about what to wear? The answer if rarely, if ever and even then the question has to be asked as to how far did she actually go? I submit that the violation is likely a minor infraction, at best. How far did she actually go in violating the societal norms the rest of us follow? Did she wear a hot pink bra with her navy top? Did you actually get a glimpse of her panties? Did you see her bra straps? How about her pants were too tight? Now I know those are pretty serious infractions but all in all very minor deviations from societies norms.



Why is it that there aren't more serious violations? Is it because the rules are the rules and breaking them is considered very violative and damaging to othe rest of us. I mean what if a young boy saw a 19 year old young womans underwear? Would the young boy be damaged beyond repair? What if a 75 year old widower saw a 17 year olds underwear? Would that cause 3 years of therapy? Of course not and you know it. The truth is the damage would be non existant. Sure the lawyers would run ads asking "have you been exposed to the excruciating exposure of a man's underpants"? As a society we all comport ourselves rather well as far as I can tell, don't you agree?

Are young women afraid that if they wear provocative clothing they will be exposed to the threat of having "asked for it" in the event they are raped? Not likely as we all know that you cannot accept and invite the horrible act of rape simply by the choice of what you wear over your body. No woman can ask for being raped although many rapists or wanna be rapists often take a run at it.

Society has a grip and a strong one at that on our behaviour and has placed limits on what we can wear, how we can dress, what we can expose and by and large we all follow the rule. Society makes its statement and we are all, most of us, more than willing to go along for the ride.

Christmas Lingerie if for Sexy Girls!

Christmas lingerie doesn't go under the tree as it is not the right thing to open in front of the kids or your parents. Christmas lingerie should be given to your wife or girlfriend anytime except on Christmas day. Of course if you don't have kids or aren't celebrating opening gifts with the family then go right ahead and open up that special gift along with the other gifts you are receiving.

When we think of the Holidays we don't often think of sexy lingerie, crotchless panties and sexy high heels but then times have changed and it is certainly time to change your traditions. Sexy lingerie is perfect for anniversaries, honeymoons, vacations and homecomings. So why not Christmas?

Sure Christmas is a religious holiday for Christians, a time for family, kids and Christmas dinner. So where does romance, sex, exotic and erotic lingerie find a place against these other important needs? First many of us have time off from work and the more "me" time you have the better. Lingerie is all about intimacy and romance and reconnecting with your mate. Many couples who are complaining about the status of their relationship say that the romance has gone out of their lives. This is easy when you have a baby, career and family to think about. Thus the connection is clearly there and needs to be exploited to the limits. Consider giving your mate something sexy for the holidays but it doesn't need to be limited to a babydoll or panties. Consider your relationship and romance or your marriage or more is at risk. Failing to take care of your lover or wife or husband is one sure way to watch it deteriorate into divorce or discord.

Am I saying give your lover sexy lingerie or else? In a way yes! Yes taking care of your relationship is extremely important to be sure. Giving lingerie is not although it is a sign or indication of what is going on in a relationship. The good news giving her a gift is not what is necessary but giving her something is important. That something does not need to be clothing or lingerie. Thinking about her is the issue. Thinking about her enough to pick up a magazine at the drug store or buying her a card just because is the issue. Listening to her is important as she will tell you what is going on with her but the question is are you listening?

Christmas lingerie does not go under the tree as it is a personal gift that needs to be left between the two of you, not with grandma, grandpa, little joey and joannie. The failure to understand that often is the problem. Perhaps you don't give her lingerie for Christmas. Well the only ones that lose out are the lingerie sellers. On the other hand when do you think of her and for what reason? Chances are there is someone who may be thinking of her and that is where problems creep into the relationship. Think about it! Please!

Men Love Women who wear Open Cup Lingerie

Open cup lingerie is synonomous with open bust and cupless lingerie and they all get the same reaction from men. Call it open cup lingerie or even open bust lingerie but the effect is still the same as it exposes many men's favorite woman's body part and many women love the thought of stimulating their man to distraction.

But why, some ask should I purchase a garment that has the bra removed and the reason is quite simple. Wearing a garment with the bra removed showcases the area that is removed and the bra covers the breasts and there is your answer. Open cup lingerie is one of Flirty Lingerie's top sellers and the women can't seem to get enough of them.

Remember if you over think this subject you will simply miss the point. There are garments worn to work and they must be appropriate, business like, provide warmth, coverage and be moderately fashionable. Wearing only a thong and a bra will surely result in some discipline or dismissal but who doesn't get it that the clothes you wear to work must fit in with everyone else, more or less. On the other hand lingerie worn in the bedroom has a different function and one of those functions is stimulating one or both partners so open cup lingerie is a perfect solution to that age old problem- what can I wear to turn my husband on?

The open cup shelf bra is a great example of an open cup lingerie garment that women want to wear and they can and do wear it to work, clubs and wherever they go as it can be worn under clothing giving her a fuller, firmer and perkier looking breasts and what woman doesn't want that? The shelf bra acts well, like a shelf that her breasts rest upon pusing them up and out that makes a stunning silhouette under a blouse or sweater and no one needs to know except that she has a great rack.



While many women love the shelf bra it may be too much of a good thing and in that case she might consider the open tip peek a boo bra which covers all of her breasts except the nipples. Like the shelf bra that can be worn in the bedroom for special viewing or under outerwear so that only she and special vip's are aware of her state of undress.


There are many examples of these sexy open cup lingerie garments but perhaps one of the sexiest is the cupless leopard romper teddy which shows a lot but is still cute, flirty and sexy and that is asking a lot from a piece of lingerie.

Panties are Seriously Sexy Lingerie

Women and men have a love with panties and they are seriously sexy lingerie women love to wear. Seriously sexy panties are no laughing matter as these panties are revealing, sensual garments that increase the temperature in the room whether you see them or not. It used to be that the panties women wore was a closely held secret and that largely hasn't changed although with all the cameras, phones with cameras and video recorders around it is not unusual to have a celebrity or two caught exposing their undergarments. Sales of sexy panties are up and the trend will likely continue for some time.

Exotic panties are just that, unusual one of a kind panties that not every woman should wear. These are not your grandmothers panties and while that is a good thing, they really aren't for every woman as it may be beyond her comfort zone. A pair of frilly, lacy and skimpy pair of panties aren't for everyday wear for most women as they are reserved for special occasions whenever she deems that may be.

New clothes can make a woman feel happy, content as they are a form of self expression, always have been, always will be. Panties like these lace up panties priced at $12.99 will make her very happy as they are ultra feminine and will make her look sexy as well as adventurous at the same time.

Unlike many other styles of lingerie panties are a garment that every woman wears and wears a lot. It partially explains why there are so many varied styles of panties on the market. This sheer lace up panty priced at $11.99 is another naughty pair of panties that women have fallen in love with as the styling is simple, color is perfect and the item is priced to sell.

Many women though are not anxious to wear such obviously sexy panties and still want to look and feel special and this sheer low rise thongs priced at $9.99.

No wonder men love giving panties as gifts like this Valentine's Day Panty in red, of course. There is no doubt that the love affair with women and panties is in no danger of cooling off. The momentary fad of going commando or not wearing panties may continue with a small number of women but that too shall pass.

With all of the selection of panties how do women choose which one to purchase. Do they prefer a sexy thong or perhaps a g string or maybe even a pair of boyshorts? Many women love thongs while others are somewhat disgusted by the string thing. Others buy the style of panty depending on what they are going to be wearing it with as in women who want to avoid the vpl-visible panty line at all costs. Some women buy the panty for coverage under short skirts, costumes and where and when they want to cover everything as modesty demands. Regardless of the reasons the panty serves many purposes in so many colors, styles and fabrics.

Do You Squidoo? Flirty Lingerie Do! So Should You!

Are you familiar with Squidoo? Squidoo is a community of bloggers or mini bloggers or at Squidoo they are called Lenses and the authors are Lensmasters. We got started there a couple of years back and we have compiled a number of lenses on subject related to lingerie and clothing. We would like to link to those lenses, there are a lot of them to let more people know about our lenses and feel free to take a look. You will also find some very interesting lenses on just about everything and many of them are truly awesome. No kidding! We invite you to see our lenses and take a look around the thousands upon thousands of other Squidoo lenses!

Sexy Bridal Lingerie

Plus Size Lingerie

Sexy Bodystockings for Women

Club Wear Fashions

Sexy and Daring Costumes

Exotic Lingerie for Women

Sexy Garter Belts

Latex Clothing is Sexy Club Wear


We will publish some additional links in the near future! Enjoy!

Lingerie from Seven Til Midnight is Seriously Sexy!

Seven til Midnight is a lingerie maker that has come out with their 2010 catalog and it is some of the sexiest lingerie we have seen in a good while. Since we deal with numerous lingerie manufacturers we believe Seven til Midnight is now making some of the most marketable, fashion forward lingerie in the industry. All of our lingerie manufacturers are carefully and none of them are slackers, quite the contrary, but at this point in time we are very impressed with Seven til Midnight and Carrie Amber.





What makes them so good? A lot of things go into making high quality lingerie and marketing it to the public. Lets begin with the designers who after all dream up the styles, colors, cuts of the product. Then there are the photographers who take the shots of the girls in their sexy underwear. Choosing the models is, in my mind one of the trickiest jobs as judged by the quality of some of the makers while others seem to struggle. STM is doing a great job as the consumer can only judge by what they see as opposed to a retail store where the buyer can try on the item, touch it, fell it and judge for themselves. Plus size lingerie is a perfect example of the quality garment, beautiful woman and photography combining to make for a best selling item.


Sexy thongs are usually top sellers but the job to sell them gets easier when the vendor covers all the bases and provides images that allow the customer to make an informed decision. STM is not just a lingerie makes though as they carry a full line of sexy costumes that are in tune with the market of young women who want to buy sexy and cute costumes in the right styles and colors.




Look for a lot more of Seven til Midnight on our site as we will carry their full line and we expect a great response to this quality lingerie and costume line.

New Vendors at Flirty Lingerie

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How to Buy Lingerie for your Sexy Body!

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Sexy Lingerie, Stripper Wear and Shapewear

Sexy lingerie, stripper wear and shapewear are some of the product we offer. Our newest partners provide you the sexy lingerie, stripper wear and shapewear you have been asking for we are so pleased to present it to you. Our partners are committed to giving our customers the best quality lingerie and clubwear available. We are wanting to give you the best we can find throughout the world in our quest for the sexiest lingerie and clothing we can find.



Vedette shapewear is our newest shapewear provider as we have been asked repeatedly to carry shapewear and shapers. We know that part of being confident and self assured is looking as good as you can look and that is where shapewear is needed. Today's form fitting, flimsy and sexy styles often lead girls to want shapewear that gives them a flattering look and feel. Our sexy shapwewear is just what you are looking for in shapers, girdles and panty shapers.

Lingerie Football League...no joke!

We're all very familiar with the NFL or National Football League-- with teams ranging from the Dallas Cowboys (Flirty Lingerie favorite) to the New England Patriots (Tom Brady, oh my!) But until recently I can't say that I knew the LFL or Lingerie Football League existed outside of every male fantasy.

It looks as though the LFL season will kick-off this September with Fox Mobile securing exclusve rights to stream directly to viewers mobile phones with interviews, behind-the scenes footage and video clips. Ten franchises (including the Dallas Desire, San Diego Seduction, Denver Dream, Chicago Bliss, etc.)will compete in games throughout a 20-week season.

Some say the LFL is simply objectivication of women, but my initial thoughts are that the uniforms are too cute...let's be honest, what do you think lingerie purveyors would say!? I'm not sure how well the "sport" may do in terms of ratings/fans/following-- what do you think? Guys, would you or your friends sit down and watch? Girls, what are your thoughts? I know there are plenty who are thinking to themselves right now, "Where can I tryout?!"

Apparently Foxers is the official uniform designer for the League but Flirty Lingerie is brainstorming new team uniforms as we speak. Stay tuned...we might be hooked!

--Lauren R. @ Flirty Lingerie!

Sexy Lingerie for Valentine's Day

Sexy Lingerie for Valentine's Day is the perfect gift for the lover in your life. Sexy lingerie is a perfect Valentine's Day gift that says I want to Love you in a way no other gift can. Unmistakably the most erotic gift a man can give a woman, lingerie is the universal symbol for Love and perhaps even Lust.

OK you are still considering candy, a card, maybe dinner and hopefully diamonds for the woman in your life. Great, but don't neglect to get her some sexy lingerie. You will be glad you did and she will get the message. It is a mistake not to buy her lingerie! A woman expects a gift of intimacy for Valentine's Day and chocolate is not intimate. Intimate does not need to mean trashy, slutty lingerie. It does mean something that a man gives a woman he loves in a romantic way. Shoes, clothing and sex toys can all qualify for an intimate gift but Lingerie may be the most romantic.

So who was this Saint Valentine and why was a holiday named after him? Well like a lot of historical figures there is some mystery as to who Saint Valentine was. One version claims he was a priest that defied a Roman emperor who had outlawed marriage by secretly marrying young men and women. That Saint Valentine was put to death for violating the Emperor's dictate.

Buy her a sexy chemise that qualifies as romantic but not over the top sexy. Chemises are lingerie many women want to wear to bed as they are subtlely sexy but refined as they don't show all the goods but she can sleep comfortably in one.




How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

-Elizabeth Barrett Browning


I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

-Pablo Neruda, "Love Sonnet XVII"




Valentine's Day or rather Valentine's Night is for lover's and you better be prepared to play the expectations game. Love, romance or whatever you call what goes on between a man and a woman or a man and a man, woman and a woman is a feeling and feelings are extremely important. If you are in a relationship you better know what is expected of you, or else! Romance has rules and if you break the rules someone is going to get hurt. Be it a card, dinner, candy, balloons or jewelry Valentine's Day is the day to express your feelings about her or him. Money can be, but usually isn't the point. Sure an expensive diamond necklace is a great expression of your feelings for your wife. But so is a date at a local Bistro with a glass of wine. Something from the heart always works. A billboard that says I Love You, Katie! across the street from where she works will be a lifetime memory, in part because her friends and co-workers can see it. How about cooking a real meal for a change and you do the dishes! How about a gift of a massage for the both of you?



But what about lingerie? She is worth lingerie and the message you send when you say I bought you this sexy lingerie is unmistakable. Romance, yes! Subtle, not so much! Just be sure you make it as memorable as you can. Don't just give her lingerie with the expectation of getting lucky. Be romantic, make the day, the entire day memorable. Hide a note in her purse that is endearing, romantic and puts her in the mood for romance, not just sex! Make her feel special just because she is special. Don't forget that there are other women in the office who will get a dozen roses or comment on where their husbands are taking them to dinner. Valentine's Day is a day to express your romantic feelings about her, so express! After this evening she should remember why she chose to spend time with you, not wonder who is that putz on the couch watching reruns!

Happy Valentine's Night from Flirty Lingerie!

Flirty Lingerie is excited about Valentine's Night! When someone says have a Happy Valentines Day, correct them and say no, have a Happy Valentine's Night! Valentine's Night is when the fun begins, or ends and you know it. While it may not be politically correct to say it, the truth is you know that Valentine's Night is what Valentine's Day is all about.

Since you were a child you were taught to exchange Valentine's cards with your little class mates. The cards were endearing cards that asked your friends to be your Valentine! You bought little heart candies that had romantic words and sayings such as Be Mine, Sweetheart and Love You! Fine for a fifth grader, but you aren't a fifth grader anymore. You are all grown up, and Valentine's Night is meant just for you!

Valentine's Night is all about adults!

Flirty Lingerie or Sexy Lingerie?

Flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie, that is the question. Are you in the flirty lingerie camp or do you prefer the sexy, even slutty lingerie? After owning a lingerie web site for 10 years, and a retail store for four, I have come to a conclusion that there are two camps when it comes to what is desireable in lingerie. The flirty lingerie camp is younger, looking for boyshorts, cami sets and cute lingerie while the sexy lingerie camp is more into open bust, crotchless panties and revealing lingerie that gets a guys pulse rate going. What is this talk about camps? I thought this was a lingerie blog? Well it sure is a lingerie blog but after years of observation it is clear that not everyone is looking for the same thing or effect when it comes to lingerie.

A recent survey in England's Daily Mail suggests that some men aren't turned on by the strappy, complicated sexy lingerie that manufacturers seem to belived. Instead they suggest that simple, flirty and feminine lingerie is what gets the English men's blood boiling. "The classic image of a suspender set with a push-up bra is what most women imagine gets their chap going. As you'll see from the results overleaf, though, nothing could be further from the truth. Whether it's a simple white set-up with a sexy bow, or some cute polka dot pants, the items that score big with our panel - made up of myself, Simon Mills and Alex Bilmes - are those that suggest innocence and fun".

Now, the blokes across may or may not be on to something, but it does closely track purchase patterns by girls under 30. So is age a factor in the type of lingerie women as well as men purchase? The answer is yes! More interesting is why women buy sexier lingerie as they get older. Some answers are fairly obvious while others are more subtle. One likely answer is women get bolder, more confident as they get older and thus their tastes in all things change. The thinking goes that young women ages 20 through 29 are not as confident in bed, not as knowledable about sex and don't find the need or value in wearing sexy lingerie. The gaining of confidence is likely true as men and women need time to gain experience, maturity and confidence. It is a hard argument to make that a 19 year old woman is as experienced as a 30, 35 or 40 year old woman. This translates into a woman finding a value in sexy lingerie as she matures.

Similarly many women are in committed relationships as they get older while younger women may not be in such relationships. It may take these relationships for women to feel comfortable in buying and wearing sexy lingerie. Also men would tend to refrain to buy a one night stand or short term lingerie. It is undeniable that many women would not want to go through the ritual of wearing sexy lingerie after dating for a week or perhaps even a couple of months. Wearing sexy lingerie is an act that usually requires a woman to be in a relationship for a period of time rather than on a first date.

Different women find lingerie of value at different times in their lives. Many young women don't appreciate the value of lingerie for a variety of reasons. One may be that the men in their lives are not as interested in forplay or a romantic evening preferring to participate in sexual relations without the pre game of soft music, watching a video, soft lighting and so on. A larger number of women enjoy the total experience of a romantic evening and sexy lingerie is an integral part of this enjoyable experience. Many if not most women prefer men to take their time, arouse her, kiss her, make her feel special rather than slam, bam thank you maam! Small wonder!

We all remember the spontaniety of the first time we had sex, the urgency of making love in the car, at a friends house, when our parents were away and all that lust. As we age the definition of sex changes to some degree and along with that time women and men see sexy lingerie as a good thing. Regardless of the reasons flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie remains a question only now they both have their own time and place.

Why do I wear Sexy Lingerie?

Why do I wear sexy lingerie is an easy question to answer. I wear sexy lingerie because sexy lingerie makes me look sexy and appealing and sexy lingerie arouses my husband which makes me feel powerful and desirable. What do you think of when someone mentions lingerie? Sex, is the response many will answer. Lingerie is synonymous with romance and intimacy. Mention the word lingerie, and immediately the thought of a romantic encounter between a man and a woman comes to mind. The french word lingerie means women's intimate apparel. Intimate means, well intimate, as in panties, bras and items that women wear around or near her erogenous zones. Many men are uncomfortable going into a lingerie department or lingerie store as though every one will know why they are buying that lingerie. The thought of wearing sexy and skimpy lingerie makes many women a bit nervous, me included. Most lingerie exposes my tummy, and thighs which isn't always a good thing. I have a couple of drawers full of bra sets, teddies, thigh high hose and more, most of which was worn one time in the privacy of my bedroom, or out of the glare of anyone but my husbands eyes. So the question is why do I wear sexy lingerie?



One answer is because the men in my life have bought it for me, suggested or insisted I purchase it and as I get older I like showing off my sexuality. So there I said it! I wear it for him, more than for me. When my first boyfriend suggested I wear sexy underwear, I had the body for it, but not the inclination. After I got married, my husband went to Connecticut for a three week business trip, and came home with a silk cami tap set, which was worn only occasionally. While it was really pretty, the tap pants were not form fitting, and I didn't like the color-cream, so began the lingerie drawer.

I should draw a distinction that exists when it comes to lingerie. There is lingerie, and then there is sexy lingerie. Most every woman wears lingerie every day, whether to work, at home or out for an evening to dinner or the movies. They may not call it lingerie, as wearing a bra and panties hardly qualifies as lingerie, but in fact it is. Sexy lingerie is both a physical and spiritual definition. Huh? Well women often buy lingerie for a purpose. When the purpose is for work, or everyday wear, that, in my opinion, is lingerie or foundations .

Foundations? Yes. foundations are bras, panties and shapers formerly known as girdles and other every day underwear worn by women every day, all day from the time they get out of the shower, to the time they arrive at home and dress for the evening. Sexy lingerie is usually less supportive, more feminine, more revealing, and generally not worn to work. Sexy lingerie is what women wear when romance is on her mind, or on her man's mind. I may be wrong, but I doubt my husband will buy me a shaper if he desires an evening of romance. You think?





The lingerie I wear every day, I buy for myself, not my man, or anyone else for that matter. That lingerie needs to be comfortable, offer me support as I am a 38D bra size, and most sexy lingerie doesn't meet the requirements. Lingerie as intimate apparel is functional, comfortable and possibly sexy. While I like feeling and looking sexy, it is not a priority when I am wearing lingerie all day, and wishing I hadn't. My lingerie drawers, not my sexy lingerie drawer is full of bras, panties and hose. The primary color is black with occasional nude and white, perhaps a navy blue. My sexy lingerie drawer has reds, black and no nude.

While I might wear sexy lingerie more often if I had a "perfect body" I doubt it. Sexy lingerie is generally a novelty and everyone knows you don't need lingerie for an evening of romance. So why do I wear sexy lingerie? Because the moment I think of wearing lingerie my imagination gets a little boost. A woman in sexy lingerie is sexier than a woman in the nude. While this could create a huge argument, that is my opinion. A nude woman is very sexy, it is just that a woman in the right sexy lingerie is sexier! I know that there is a difference of opinion about this, but here is my case. If clothes make the man, then sexy lingerie makes a woman appear sexier, more desirable and alluring. Sexy lingerie is all about the visual story or drama a woman creates with the various sexy lingerie items she wear. A sexy shelf bra makes a woman's breasts look larger, and exaggerates them in a very suggestive manner, pushing them up and out. A garter belt is old school sexy that is very suggestive of a sexual being, an erotic look that is very sexy, in this context. What is sexier than a pair of panties, sheer perhaps, covering, just barely a woman's most private part and then a pair of stockings held up by the garters. The picture this woman creates is one of suggestive sexuality. Add a pair of high heels, and the look is complete.




Getting dressed in this sexy lingerie outfit is sure to put you in the mood for romance. I rarely wear a shelf bra as it exaggerates my bust, and this is reserved for special moments. While I have many sheer panties, the garter belt is truly a step back in time. Pantyhose almost threatened to relegate garter belts to the trash heap of clothing history along with nehru jackets ,and leisure suits. A garter belt takes time to put on and along with slipping on the thigh high stockings, is not quite as simple as slipping on a pair of hideous panty hose. It is impossible to look at myself in this outfit without thinking " I am sexier than before I put this on"., to say the least. I know that when he sees me in this outfit, I am hot. I feel hot, I look hot.

So why don't I wear this more often? Or outfits similar to this? I have thought about this and I think there are a couple of reasons. One is time, or spontaneity. While it doesn't take a long time to get dressed this way, I feel compelled to redo my makeup, fix my hair and get dressed so the time is a factor. Next is I feel very exposed. Obviously, right! But I also mean there is little left to the imagination here. Shelf bra, sheer panties, thigh highs and high heels. My insecurities get in the way. Once I am dressed, I do feel and look sexy, at least he thinks so. Perhaps if I was more of an exhibitionist I would go for it more often. If it is true that there is a time and a place for everything then there is a time and a place for sexy lingerie. The time and the place are generally at night, on the weekends and on vacation. Many couples, including myself have a sort of ritual for wearing sexy lingerie. Due to its charged nature, sexy lingerie sends a distinct message reserved for the lover in your life. The question some men may ask is "why don't you greet me in the evening after work at the door with a martini in one hand, wearing skimpy lingerie"? The answer is likely either "the kids will see me half naked", or perhaps "I am not the type to just dress up in lingerie because that will tell you what I want"!

The message sent by wearing sexy lingerie is unmistakably sexual or romantic. Lingerie and romance are inextricably intertwined and no one mistakes wearing lingerie for anything else. One wears sexy lingerie to encourage intimacy, but why wear it at all? Why not just go naked? Why waste the money buying lingerie when it just stays on a few minutes anyway? It is a method of expressing a woman's sexuality, showing off her erogenous zones in a flattering way. Many of the things we do are genetically wired into us as men and women. I am not suggesting that sexy lingerie is in our genetic code but expressing our needs certainly is. Wearing sexy lingerie is a ritual of sorts and the older we get the stronger the desire to engage in the ritual becomes. I wear sexy lingerie in part because everyone tells me to wear it! Television, commercials, movies, men, women, even parents all reinforce the idea of wearing lingerie for the sake of romance. I wear it for me, for him because when I am buying it I am thinking about romance, when I am wearing it there is little else one can think of other than intimacy. I associate sexy lingerie with very pleasant memories, adult encounters and adult pleasures. I wear sexy lingerie because it makes me feel good! It makes me look more feminine, more like a woman, more desirable and of course, sexy.