Saturday, December 8, 2007

Flirty Lingerie or Sexy Lingerie?

Flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie, that is the question. Are you in the flirty lingerie camp or do you prefer the sexy, even slutty lingerie? After owning a lingerie web site for 10 years, and a retail store for four, I have come to a conclusion that there are two camps when it comes to what is desireable in lingerie. The flirty lingerie camp is younger, looking for boyshorts, cami sets and cute lingerie while the sexy lingerie camp is more into open bust, crotchless panties and revealing lingerie that gets a guys pulse rate going. What is this talk about camps? I thought this was a lingerie blog? Well it sure is a lingerie blog but after years of observation it is clear that not everyone is looking for the same thing or effect when it comes to lingerie.

A recent survey in England's Daily Mail suggests that some men aren't turned on by the strappy, complicated sexy lingerie that manufacturers seem to belived. Instead they suggest that simple, flirty and feminine lingerie is what gets the English men's blood boiling. "The classic image of a suspender set with a push-up bra is what most women imagine gets their chap going. As you'll see from the results overleaf, though, nothing could be further from the truth. Whether it's a simple white set-up with a sexy bow, or some cute polka dot pants, the items that score big with our panel - made up of myself, Simon Mills and Alex Bilmes - are those that suggest innocence and fun".

Now, the blokes across may or may not be on to something, but it does closely track purchase patterns by girls under 30. So is age a factor in the type of lingerie women as well as men purchase? The answer is yes! More interesting is why women buy sexier lingerie as they get older. Some answers are fairly obvious while others are more subtle. One likely answer is women get bolder, more confident as they get older and thus their tastes in all things change. The thinking goes that young women ages 20 through 29 are not as confident in bed, not as knowledable about sex and don't find the need or value in wearing sexy lingerie. The gaining of confidence is likely true as men and women need time to gain experience, maturity and confidence. It is a hard argument to make that a 19 year old woman is as experienced as a 30, 35 or 40 year old woman. This translates into a woman finding a value in sexy lingerie as she matures.

Similarly many women are in committed relationships as they get older while younger women may not be in such relationships. It may take these relationships for women to feel comfortable in buying and wearing sexy lingerie. Also men would tend to refrain to buy a one night stand or short term lingerie. It is undeniable that many women would not want to go through the ritual of wearing sexy lingerie after dating for a week or perhaps even a couple of months. Wearing sexy lingerie is an act that usually requires a woman to be in a relationship for a period of time rather than on a first date.

Different women find lingerie of value at different times in their lives. Many young women don't appreciate the value of lingerie for a variety of reasons. One may be that the men in their lives are not as interested in forplay or a romantic evening preferring to participate in sexual relations without the pre game of soft music, watching a video, soft lighting and so on. A larger number of women enjoy the total experience of a romantic evening and sexy lingerie is an integral part of this enjoyable experience. Many if not most women prefer men to take their time, arouse her, kiss her, make her feel special rather than slam, bam thank you maam! Small wonder!

We all remember the spontaniety of the first time we had sex, the urgency of making love in the car, at a friends house, when our parents were away and all that lust. As we age the definition of sex changes to some degree and along with that time women and men see sexy lingerie as a good thing. Regardless of the reasons flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie remains a question only now they both have their own time and place.

Friday, December 7, 2007

To wear Panties or not to wear Panties, that is the question?

Should women wear panties or not wear panties is a daily question for women. Whether a woman should wear panties or not wear panties is ultimately her choice to make, and the question is why is it anyone's business. Ok, Brittany Spears and Lindsay Lohan were caught not wearing panties . TMZ and all the other paparazzi sites were aghast. The basic structure of the free world was compromised. Mothers were locking up their children as they were afraid their daughters might follow the leader. These two "women" had violated the rule against letting the world know some women don't wear panties on occasion. The league of no "vpl" (visible panty lines) considered sanctions against these two pantiless women. Men didn't really know what to say or do. How could the star of the Parent Trap expose the fire crotch?

Get over it! Anyone who knows anything about fashion, or lack of it, and women, especially young ones knew ages ago that some girls don't wear panties. Many women expressed disgust as how unsanitary it is not to wear panties. Others discussed the relative merits of shaving ones pubic area. Still others suggested that not wearing panties was an accident waiting to happen. You girls know exactly what I mean. You guys can pretend to not know what I mean.

So not that the dust has settled. Now that Brittany has apologized? Has she? Now that western civilazation seems to have withstood the likelihood that a couple of young hotties don't actually wear underwear we need to analyze the effect of this development. First, girls haven't been wearing panties long before Brittany's and Lindsay's public displays of erogenous zones.

Panties were originally designed to protect the garments of the day. Back in the day there were dry cleaners on every corner. Any woman who could afford a dress was well, wealthy. Bathing was an occasional act, not an everyday occurence, sometimes more than once. The reason behind undergarments was far differant than today. Today the panties women wear are snug even tight. Panties are colorful, and often seen as they peek out of low rise jeans and mini skirts. Women trim their pubic regions often to landing strips or even going bald down there. So what is the big deal with not wearing any panties?

Not much. While there are no exact figures available, a survey by Freshpair suggested that 15% of women don't wear panties on occasion. Does that sound possible? If you are over 30, then likely not. The phenomenon of not wearing panties is not all that recent as many women of all ages don't wear panties with pantyhose. Women generally don't wear panties with bodystockings, bodysuits and who can blame them.

I don't generally wear panties in the summer and you will just have to deal with that. Winter is another matter altogether. What? Well, modesty aside, panties are just not a necessity. Not a necessity. Ueeeewww, gross you say. Ok, so it isnt for everybody. Isn't meant to be. I don't care if you wear panties, or if you do. It is a very personal decision. I love the feeling! I like the freedom of not having to wear panties, and if I decide to wear them, I do. Take the poll and lets see what it shows. I think we all may be surprised.

Corsets as Sexy Outerwear

Corsets are sexy outerwear and more than sexy lingerie. Sexy corsets should be worn out to clubs, dinners and parties as sexy outerwear.

So why don't you own one? What is holding you back? Is it because you think they are just for weddings, or something your mother or grandmother would wear? Or is it just because corsets are lingerie? Corsets have a long history and yes your grand mother probably wore a corset and she probably didn't care for it much. You have probably seen the images of women in Victorian times being squeezed into a corset by a maid or friend. The fashion of the day was to wear a corset to achieve the hourglass figure popular at the time. The corset did its job as you were laced into one and the tighter it became the better you looked. That is if you wanted to have a waist the size of a modern day CD. Women were supposed to look like they had full, voluptuous breasts, a tiny waist and blossoming hips. Actually it is no more bizarre than the women sticks that prowl the runways of fashion shows weighing in at 90 pounds and absent are their breasts, hips and butt cheeks. The pain women endure for being fashionable. Corsets evolved into girdles and in the late 1950's they were very popular as they were slimming, toning and dreadfully ugly. Gone were much of the lacing and boning, replaced by stretch fabric, heavy stitching and hook and eye closures. They were meant to be worn, not seen and they were functional garments available in many varieties from full length girdles that went from the breasts to the crotch, many with garters straps for stockings. Others rested under the breasts, while many were over sized panties that covered a woman's problem areas around her thighs, tummy and buttocks.

Corsets available now are more colorful, comfortable and classically sexy than ever before. Corsets were and are made to slim the waist and accentuate the bust. Corsets have been around for hundreds of years and are the predecessor of girdles and more recently, shapers. Unfortunately corsets were made of heavy material, had whale bones to maintain structure and fit and were usually found in only nude, black or white. Women, righfully so, complained of the pain in wearing a corset, its bulkyness and over time the corset fell out of favor. Women only wore one when they absolutely had to as they simply didn't care to endure the pain. Along came the 1960's, stretch lycra and corsets saw a resurgence of sorts.

If you have a perfect bust, and a perfect waist, corsets are still for you as they come in some hot colors, and they make your favorite skirt or jeans look better.

Corsets are certainly made for brides to be, and they have been popular for many, many years. It is just that the corsets available today are just too hot to believe. Woman come in and try on our corsets, and their boobs spill out over the top of the corset, just as the corset was made to do, and the colors are from dark, luxurious colors to flirty pastels, and everything in between.

So why aren't you getting up and running out to buy a corset? The cost? Well most of our corsets run in the $49.00 to $69.00 range. What do you get for the money? A top you can wear anywhere, under a jacket or all alone. A lingerie garment that looks positively hot in the bedroom. Yes, corsets do double duty and that makes the corset a great value.

Is that all? Not really as they can also be used as an integral part of a sexy costume. Anything else? Sure you can wear them to work, dinner, movies or on that special date!

Am I done? Sort of. If that isn't enough then you probably will never buy a corset, but you have to agree that they are stunning, and they feel just great. When I tried on my first corset, I though that it would be uncomfortable. Well, the first thing I noticed is what it did for my boobs. Yes, my boobs looked bigger, and I suddenly had great cleavage. Next was I could cinch it up to a point where I was comfortable, and I had a slimmer waist. I know you want a corset now, so get up and go over to Flirty Lingerie and check out the selection.

Lingerie for the Holidays: Sexy Lingerie for Christmas and New Years

Buy her sexy lingerie for the holidays as the gift of lingerie for Christmas is what she wants. Buying sexy lingerie for her is a personal gift that makes a statement that you find her desirable and sexy. The holidays are a time for sexy lingerie and intimate evenings. Forget the stress and strain of holiday shopping and family meals, and remember that relationships can be strained with all the things to do, parties to attend and shopping to do. Don't forget to plan some time alone, to rekindle the romance or just have some serious adult fun. Lingerie is the perfect antidote to the holiday blues.

The holidays are a time for family, true, but your wife or girlfriend is a part of the family too, isn't she? She deserves some special lingerie and so do you. Also don't forget one of the most romantic holidays are just around the corner. So much attention is paid to Christmas, many people almost forget that New Year's Eve is the week after Christmas and we all know how hectic that can be.

Yes, New Years Eve is a very romantic time of the year. I always wondered why everyone seems to get so excited about the New Years holiday. Isn't it just an excuse to party until midnight, toast each other, kiss your loved one as what you are doing on New Year's is a prediction of what you will be doing all year long, right? Well, over the last couple of years, New Years have become very romantic, because I have made it romantic. Start planning now, cause the reservations will be taken fast. Wherever you live there will be New Years celebrations and you have your choices. There are the parties held by friends and families. There are the parties held by the major hotels in your area. I suggest you try one of these major parties with all the trimmings including the hotel room and breakfast the next morning.

This is the time for sexy lingerie . If you have kids, get a baby sitter who can spend the night. Plan a luxurious evening complete with dinner, dancing, a midnight snack, breakfast and have I left anything out? Of course! Romance! Last year my husband and I reserved a local hotel room that had dinner for two complete with champagne, the room and a breakfast buffet. Not as extravagant as previous years, but memorable nonetheless. We packed for an evening of fun. Don't forget the swimsuits for the heated pool or jacuzzi. An extra bottle of wine, or two. A digital camera and of course, sexy panties , bra and panty sets and precious alone time.

We started off the evening off with a romantic candle light dinner and had a little dessert to top it all off. When we got back to the room, we relaxed for a while, then headed down to the heated pool, jacuzzi and sauna. Luckily they were all indoors, but thankfully we took our little plastic cups and a bottle of wine and divided our time between the relatively cool pool and the steaming jacuzzi. Wow, what a relaxing time, but we headed back to the room just in time for midnight, and the ball in Times Square on television.

Out came the lingerie and the camera, and we all know that these two items were made for each other. My outfit was a combination of sexy sheer thigh highs, a bra and panty set and a pair of 4 inch platforms, boy did I look hot and trashy! I won't go into any more details, but the next morning came way too soon. We got up and dressed and got down to the New Years brunch about noon, and while we weren't terribly hungry, the coffee and sweets were appreciated.

On the way home we both agreed that this was going to be a happy New Year.