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Buying Exotic Lingerie for your Girlfriend

Buying exotic lingerie for you girlfriend is a risk as it isn't just like all other lingerie. When you are buying exotic lingerie for your girlfriend you need to keep a number of things in mind so it will be a success and she won't want to return it or refuse to wear it.

The first thing is to remember is the thing that attracts many men to exotic lingerie is exactly why many women don't care for it. Right off of the bat it seems that there is a high degree of conflict when it comes to this very unique and sexy style of lingerie. Let's start with some basic descriptions, definitions or simply ideas to get us started. The term lingerie covers an enormous amount of ground although most of the men and women who don't buy sexy underwear on a regular basis don't know and really have no good reason to care. One analogy is that of a motorcycle that the insiders know is a great line, awesome racing pedigree and most men and virtually all women don't know that and again really have no reason to care much. That same reality or conflict exists in the lingerie world.

Lingerie is everything women wear under their clothing to begin with as bras, panties , shapers, camisoles and the like all can be described as lingerie. The sub categories stem from there and they are often just a term that is used by insiders, lingerie manufacturers and retailers and few others. That is not to say that there aren't a good number of women and even some men who are much more knowledgable about the subject but again most simply don't even care. Lingerie is worn by women for a relatively short period of their lives, from somewhere in the range of 16 to 18 or older all the way to perhaps 60 years old and this is an estimate as some women well wear it much later than that while others stopped wearing the garments much sooner.

Lingerie is associatd with sex, romance and the like and thus the reason for young girls and older women shunning or being shunned away from the idea of wearing such a garment. Lingerie is rather odd in that it is one of the few garments that young girls should not wear as what reason on earth would an 11 year old girl be doing wearing sexy lingerie or a 70 year old woman? I don't condone the 11 year old girl wearing any sexy lingerie as it suggests strongly that sexual activity is present and that is obviously inappropriate. The 70 year old woman is quite another matter and if she wants to wear it all the more power to her for doing so. Our society has many of these "unwritten rules" that most of us follow just because it seems like the right thing to do and who is to argue that societal norms should not be adhered to?

Now did you notice I slipped a ringer in there as I was saying why would an 11 year old girl be wearing "sexy lingerie"? Sexy lingerie is a sub section of lingerie as you likely know. Sexy lingerie by its mere title suggests that not all lingerie is not sexy and that is a fact. But who makes that decision? Well, you the consumer does ultimately, although the industry tries to establish some very, very loose guidelines. Remember I said loose as there is no guide, text, or anything else that says this is sexy and this is not.

So where does exotic lingerie fit into the picture? First the definition of exotic will give us some guidance as it means unusual, one of a kind and that is what makes it so popular and risky at the same time. Many women, not all, do not relish the idea of wearing anything that shows off their most intimate parts and that is particulary true of any flaws, real or perceived, and therein lies the rub. Exotic lingerie can and usually is skimpy, suggestive, less rather than more and it reveals a woman's bust, hips, butt, stomach and so on. Thus it isn't for every woman but there again you can see why it is so much in demand at least by some women and the men who love see them in almost their all together.

So all you have to do is go into a boutique, sex shop, lingerie department and ask for exotic lingerie? No, not quite as first of all many lingerie retailers don't even carry the stuff. It can be an issue of how is it to be displayed? Or we don't want to attract that kind of crowd! So it is often limited to sexy lingerie boutiques, online sites and porn stores that carry xxx tapes and a smattering of the really sexy stuff.

So what do you do when you do find it, you buy it and your girl or wife won't wear it or only wears it that one time and then it is sentenced to life in her panty drawer never to be worn again? The solution to this problem is either solved before you buy it or shortly thereafter or forget about it. Remember I said that many women and that may include the gorgeous creature in your life who won't wear it or will only wear it once and then wants to return it to get her or your money back. Keep in mind that due to the nature of this type of lingerie in particular it may be impossible to return it due to the packaging or what body parts it touches intimately. So what is a guy to do when he encounters this dilemna?

How do you sell ice to the eskimos? The likely answer is you don't as they aren't that stupid. But how do you get a woman to wear something that may show off her unsexiest parts? Most women have body image issues, some minimal and some rather significant. So you want her to ignore years of fears, concerns and down right emotional problems when it comes to her body and show off all of her deeply hidden issues concerning her stomach, thighs, butt and the like? Not likely!

Here are a couple of ideas but keep in mind that much work has to be done before you buy her anything. I don't suggest that there is any magic fix to some of these issues. First you must establish a real, demonstrable sense of trust in your relationship. She must trust you aren't going to ridicule her, laugh at her, call her silly for her thoughts or the like. This could take days, weeks, months or years. If it isn't worth the effort then either buy her jewelry, candy, flowers, shoes or any number of other items. Lingerie is a great couples gift but it does come with some baggage. Buy her some safe or safer lingerie items like a chemise, corset , camisole set or many other items that aren't nearly as sexy but are cute, and make her look awesome.



Keep her in mind when buying sexy lingerie as she not you has to wear it and if she doesn't like the way she looks, regardless of what you say, she simply won't wear it or she won't wear it often. Consider her feelings when she walks in front of you and she feels fat, unsexy, hideous and that is not to say she looks like any of these descriptions but the issue is does she think she does? Encouraging words at a time like this are essential but may not do much so don't be surprised. Of course a woman wants to be told "you look great", "you look hot" or simply "wow". Of course you must offer her encouragement, praise and it helps if you actually mean it but it may simply not be enough as it is very, very difficult for most women to wear things they think make them look ridiculous.

Christmas Lingerie if for Sexy Girls!

Christmas lingerie doesn't go under the tree as it is not the right thing to open in front of the kids or your parents. Christmas lingerie should be given to your wife or girlfriend anytime except on Christmas day. Of course if you don't have kids or aren't celebrating opening gifts with the family then go right ahead and open up that special gift along with the other gifts you are receiving.

When we think of the Holidays we don't often think of sexy lingerie, crotchless panties and sexy high heels but then times have changed and it is certainly time to change your traditions. Sexy lingerie is perfect for anniversaries, honeymoons, vacations and homecomings. So why not Christmas?

Sure Christmas is a religious holiday for Christians, a time for family, kids and Christmas dinner. So where does romance, sex, exotic and erotic lingerie find a place against these other important needs? First many of us have time off from work and the more "me" time you have the better. Lingerie is all about intimacy and romance and reconnecting with your mate. Many couples who are complaining about the status of their relationship say that the romance has gone out of their lives. This is easy when you have a baby, career and family to think about. Thus the connection is clearly there and needs to be exploited to the limits. Consider giving your mate something sexy for the holidays but it doesn't need to be limited to a babydoll or panties. Consider your relationship and romance or your marriage or more is at risk. Failing to take care of your lover or wife or husband is one sure way to watch it deteriorate into divorce or discord.

Am I saying give your lover sexy lingerie or else? In a way yes! Yes taking care of your relationship is extremely important to be sure. Giving lingerie is not although it is a sign or indication of what is going on in a relationship. The good news giving her a gift is not what is necessary but giving her something is important. That something does not need to be clothing or lingerie. Thinking about her is the issue. Thinking about her enough to pick up a magazine at the drug store or buying her a card just because is the issue. Listening to her is important as she will tell you what is going on with her but the question is are you listening?

Christmas lingerie does not go under the tree as it is a personal gift that needs to be left between the two of you, not with grandma, grandpa, little joey and joannie. The failure to understand that often is the problem. Perhaps you don't give her lingerie for Christmas. Well the only ones that lose out are the lingerie sellers. On the other hand when do you think of her and for what reason? Chances are there is someone who may be thinking of her and that is where problems creep into the relationship. Think about it! Please!

Why Should Women Wear Sexy Lingerie?

Why should women wear sexy lingerie in the bedroom or before sexual activity? What is the point of wearing sexy lingerie when the lingerie ends up getting removed shortly after putting it on? Does sexy lingerie really serve any purpose other than helping make a woman a sex object?

I was reading a blog the other day from a feminist and it stood for the position that sexy lingerie is a bad thing and objectifies women as sexual objects and is dehumanizing to her. At first I was amused that these feminists are so off base that they don't get it. How wrong can a feminist be to dismiss the value of sexy lingerie to women but on the other hand it was indeed a woman writing the blog post. After reading it again I decided I still disagreed with the post but thought it was a good starting point for presenting the opposite side of the argument. It is my belief as a woman that it is up to the individual woman as to what she wears or doesn't wear in bed, before sex or to work. This tyranny of the feminist left is over reaching as it presumes to tell women what they can't and cannot wear. Why in the world would the fringe left or the wacky right presume to think they can dictate what anyone wears? But this ignores the question as to whether the wearing of "sexy" lingerie is a means of men objectifying a woman?

Certainly we can agree that sexy lingerie does expose a woman's body in a very suggestive and sexual way. Much of the sexy lingerie is sheer, transparent, short, skimpy and naughty. Thus a simplistic approach to the wearing of sexy lingerie would argue that that in itself is making a sexual object out of a woman's body. What this argument ignores is a woman's free will to present herself as a sexual being which she is regardless of what she or others think. All of us are sexual beings and there is nothing we can do about that. How we project ourselves is entirely up to us. The argument that it is "men's attempt to make women a sex object" is assuming so much simply for the sake of many feminist's agendas to make men responsible for all that is wrong with the world. In this case men are innocent of anything other than enjoying women's sexuality and there is nothing wrong with that.

The reason women wear sexy lingerie is as varied as there are women. No doubt some women wear sexy lingerie to please the man in their lives. If this is not voluntary then of course it is inappropriate at best. Forcing a woman to wear any garment is wrong but on the other hand anything a couple does in the privacy of their own home that is not illegal is perfectly appropriate. Wearing sexy lingerie is a means to an end that apparently many women enjoy but there is no doubt that men's desire is a component. Trying to insert yourself into the decisions of adults in the bedroom is simply a waste of time regardless of the reason. Free will is free will and to suggest that women only wear lingerie for the sake of men is patently false.

Feminism has done much for women although what it has done in the bedroom is difficult to ascertain. Sexy lingerie is a garment that is often a prelude to sex and in many ways much of what goes on in a bedroom is for the sake of sexual gratification. Is it mistreating a woman if he climaxes and she doesn't? Is spanking her bottom gently or telling her to do something like "faster", "harder" or "don't stop" dominating her? Where do we stop if we get on the slippery slope of telling women or men for that matter what is and is not appropriate?

I suggest we stay out of the bedroom altogether with our political agenda's and religious beliefs if the parties in the bedroom don't ask for the direction. It is legitimate for feminists to express their opinions but like politics and religion it is best to keep a hands off position on the subject of sex which is after all a major component of buying, wearing and introducing lingerie into the bedroom. I suggest most women dismiss the arguments that wearing sexy lingerie objectifies a woman as perhaps it does, perhaps it doesn't but who really cares? In some ways it is like preaching to people that chocolate is bad for you because it has sugar, caffeine and causes one to gain weight. It clearly appears that this is the case but it is also delicious, satisfying and millions are not about to stop eating it for those reasons. Sex and sexy lingerie and sexual enjoyment and men and women are so intertwined that virtually nothing is going to stop her from wearing it and he from wanting to see her wearing it.

So why should a woman wear sexy lingerie? One obvious reason is she wants to be appealing to her boyfriend, husband or lover! Simply put sexy lingerie puts an uncomplicated image in front of her lover that she wants to be romantic, have sex or otherwise engage in sexual play. Wearing sexy lingerie is similar to a football player putting on his uniform. When he does he and others around him know that a football game is about to occur. Does he do this in a vacuum? Does he do this in the men's room at his wife's office? No, wearing sexy lingerie is done in a certain context, often at a certain time, although not necessarily. Wearing a sheer babydoll is unmistakably a suggestion that she wants sex, fondling, forplay or some other sexual activity. Sure she could strip naked and say F@#$ me! Or she could simply lay down on the floor, spread her legs and point to herself but that is kind of crude. Wearing sexy lingerie is an accepted means of saying without speaking.

A woman should wear sexy lingerie because it, like putting on business attire is a means of showing her co-workers, boss and family that it is now time for work, not play. Wearing sexy lingerie can put a woman in the mood because she likely associates sexy lingerie with pleasure, arousal, adult activity and sex. These associations are very powerful just as telling your 9 year old to put his swimming trunks on! As he is racing into the bedroom to get them on is he thinking he is going to the dentist, church or school? No, he is thinking how much he loves going to the swimming pool in part because he recalls instinctively how much fun he has had at the pool. Associations are part of our lives and we know it.

Finally and perhaps most importantly a woman should wear sexy lingerie if she loves the way she looks and feels when she put sexy lingerie on. Wearing a new outfit, new shoes, or jewelry can make a woman or man feel good about themselves. Simple things like "you smell good" or "is that a new tie" or simply "have you lost weight" are things that can make our day. If wearing sexy and revealing lingerie makes you feel good or brings back good, even great memories then that is a great reason why women should wear sexy lingerie.