Why buy sexy lingerie? 5 Great Reasons!

Why should you buy sexy lingerie is a great question. When you buy sexy lingerie remember there are five great reasons and you and your partner will be the beneficiaries! Buy sexy lingerie rather than that dull, bland granny panty stuff you find at the malls and you will wonder how you got by without sexy lingerie for this long.



While there are a lot of great reasons to buy sexy lingerie I have limited them to the top 5 reasons to buy sexy lingerie:

1. Self Esteem: Yes the old stand by is self esteem which is defined as "a confidence and satisfaction in oneself." Having confidence and satisfaction in yourself is vitally important in the way you look and feel day and night. So what does self esteem have to do with sexy lingerie? Lingerie like outerwear is an expression of you and who you are, what you like and how you look. The fact that the whole building or the entire block does not see you in your sexy panties and bra makes no difference. Looking and feeling good about yourself in your intimate apparel is immensely important. So why not just wear a pair of nude panties and a ratty old bra, or a flannel night gown and rabbit slippers. Nothing, but it does say everything about you, your sexuality and how you project yourself to your partner, male or female. Sexy lingerie exudes a positive attitude about your body, your sexuality and your appearance as sexy lingerie shows off your body rather than hides it.




Sexy lingerie says you are willing to express your sexuality, willing to show off those sexy legs, full breasts or firm rear. So what if you don't have those or don't think you have those attributes? Every woman, yes every woman has good and bad features. Every woman has one or more physical attributes that are fair, good and great. You have small breasts and all the sexy lingerie is about big boobs. You have a tummy and nothing will hide that. These attitudes are just what needs changing and wearing sexy lingerie is just what you need to come out of your shell. You can't change your self esteem just by saying change. You have to work at it and just remember there is sexy lingerie that emphasizes whatever attribute you desire. You can't categorize sexy lingerie as being about just sexy girls. Every girl is a sexy girl just waiting to come out and join the party.




2. Wearing sexy lingerie, and sexy clothing makes you feel sexy!
Try an experiment which you have probably experienced by yourself already. Buy a pair of sexy shoes , perhaps 4 inch heels and wear them with a pair of snug fitting jeans. No real dare here as your aren't being asked to venture outside in a micro mini skirt and no panties! See how people react to your "new" look and judge for yourself how it makes you feel to get at least one compliment on the look. Wear something outside of your comfort level and see what you have been missing. On the other hand wear a pair of the baggiest pairs of sweats, a stretched out of shape t-shirt and no make up and go to the mall and take a look at the responses. The fact is that how you look, in part determines how you feel as how you feel determines how you look. There is no seperating these two factors and it is the main reason why wearing sexy lingerie makes you feel sexy. It is rather hard to wear a see through babydoll that exposes your breasts and a pair of skimpy panties with a pair of high heels and try and feel frumpy, just try. It is not possible. So buying sexy lingerie and wearing it will as a matter of course make you feel sexy. Many of us were taught to hide our sexuality and as a child and young adult that may be appropriate. As an adult in a relationship that training is actually detrimental as expressing your sexuality is not only appropriate but very healthy.

3. Sexy lingerie is the answer to the question: How can I improve my personal, sexual relationship?
While wearing sexy lingerie will not rescue a broken relationship all by itself, it is very important in the endeavor. Sexy lingerie leads to romance, sex and sharing yourself with another. Sexy lingeris is the universal language of romance. Appearing in sexy lingerie sends an unmistakeable message to your partner that you are open to making love or being romantic. It is unavoidable that showing up in sexy lingerie can only be interpreted one way. This is yet another reason why buying sexy lingerie is a great idea. What do you think about when you see a young woman wearing a sexy corset, thigh high stockings and high heels? Painting? Sewing? Of course not as culturally we are conditioned to associate lingerie with romance. Who doesn't need more romance in their lives?



4. Lingerie shows off your assets and you are in control of what assets to show!
The variety in the kind and quality of sexy lingerie is awesome. You can and will find whatever type of lingerie you need to accentuate the areas of your body that you want to emphasize the most. A little thought and the help of a good lingerie boutique will do wonders for every woman. Not every woman should wear just any type of lingerie anymore than every woman should wear every type of shoes, skirt or hair color. Wear what makes you look best! Want to show off your breast? Wear a corset. Need to pull that tummy in a bit? A corset also works well as it is meant to control your waist while emphasizing your breasts. Small breasts? Wear a padded bra, or a snug fitting camisole and panty set. Short legs? Wear some high heels and a pair of stockings that make your legs appear taller. Big butt? Wear snug fitting chemise that hugs and shows off that booty butt.

The suggestions are just a sampling that will work for you and your partner. All women need some help somewhere or they have already had plastic surgery. So don't hold off buying sexy lingerie because of your "problem" areas. Don't waste the opportunity to show off what the man above gave you.

5. Stay young and energetic instead of old and frumpy.
Some day romance and sex will be a distant memory. Some day you will have your memories to keep you warm. Don't let time pass you by when you can express your sexuality now. This is not a suggestion that you dress slutty, look like you are trying too hard or just plain have bad taste. This is yet another suggestion for how and why to buy sexy lingerie. Your partner would love to see the new you. He will be amazed at the transformation and the good part is that no one in the world but the two of you have to know the first thing about your personal lives. Stay young and sexy by taking a few chances that in retrospect will be just the beginning. You can be a school maid at Sunday services, and a wild hot milf in the bedroom. Yes, you can have it both ways.

Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater?

Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater is a dilemna men face every holiday. Does your lover prefer a sweater or sexy lingerie for Christmas? Sexy lingerie or a sweater? Maybe a toaster, or a gift certificate to the mall. Has the romance sputtered out of your romantic relationship? Well the answers to those and many other pressing questions is right here in our first annual Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater?

Christmas is a time for family, Christmas is for kids, Christmas is a time for peace and good will towards men. So the answer to the age old question, Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater? is a sweater. Who wants to open a gift in front of the kids, grandma and mom and dad to find a sexy crotchless panty and matching open cup bra? Can anyone spell embarrasing? So the answer is surely sweater, right? Christmas is a time of running around buying gifts, cooking, entertaining and wrapping gifts, right? Romance is for Valentine's or maybe an anniversary, possibly on the that vacation a man and a woman take after they retire, correct? Well pilgrims, the answer is Christmas is a time to light the fires of romance, rekindle the bonds of sensuality between the two of you. Fact is you better buy her something personal, meaningful and from the heart. So run out and drop a couple of bucks on a bracelet, earrings, necklace or a leather coat, but don't forget the romance, lest you be looking for another mate down the road. Huh? Am I suggesting that if you don't buy her some sexy lingerie you will be getting a divorce or a seperation? No, of course not! Just that why miss this opportunity to connect with your mate at a special time of year.


Fact is, Christmas is not generally looked at as a time for romance. Christmas is looked at as a time for family, which is sometimes the exact opposite of romance. So what to do? Well here are a few suggestions:

First of all buy her a sweater. But, please look to see if she really needs one, or is it just that the store in the mall needs to sell a couple of thousand more sweaters. Point is- Be thoughtful! Buy her a coat, sweater, gloves, or whatever she likes, needs or perhaps even wants. Be generous, but by all means be thoughtful.



Second, buy her some lingerie. Why, you ask? Because it is a very personal gift as you are really saying "I want to see you in this outfit, only just you and I". This is pretty thoughtful, and very personal. But she doesn't like, or she doesn't wear lingerie, you say. Well, here is where getting thoughtful comes in. She loves lingerie! Yes, she loves lingerie as every woman loves pretty things, useful things, thoughtful gifts. But when you have bought lingerie in the past, it ends up in the lingerie drawer never to be seen again! So why should I buy her that again? The answer is obvious, did you buy her what she likes, or what you like? Did you do a little research, or wander into the lingerie department at the department store in the mall, and think that was enough.



The mistake many men make in buying lingerie is they are lousy buyers. In other words, they know little about the subject except what they like to see a woman wearing, possibly what they saw in Playboy, Maxim or any other men's magazine. But, do they know what the woman in their life wants? Do they talk with their wife or girlfriend about wht she likes and dislikes in lingerie? Not likely. So what is a man to do?




1. Get to know a little about lingerie! What is a babydoll? What is a camisole set? What kind of lingerie do women with small breasts prefer as opposed to women with large breasts? Is there a difference? What sizes does your wife, or girlfriend wear? What is her favorite color? Where does she buy her bras, panties, hosiery or intimate apparel? Damn, this is a lot of information to get and how do I get it? Relax! Take it one step at a time, and the rest will follow. The next time she goes out to the grocery store, or wherever, take a look in her lingerie/hosiery drawers. In between the nude pictures of her former boyfriends, just kidding, write down her bra size from a bra you know she presently wears, not that sexy model she wore on the date you got to third base on, you dog! Is there a label? Where does she shop? Come on, you have seen enough episodes of Miami, CSI , dig for the evidence, you will be justly rewarded! 5-10 minutes of poking around will give you most of what you need. You will need to know her bra size, panty or jeans/slacks size, weight, height and waist size. Don't get all silly if you don't get it all, but remember when you are buying something for your girl, telling the woman in the lingerie store, or online that she is about that tall won't really help much. Now, make sure the information is safely in your wallet, and onto step two.



Step Two: On the daring scale, where does your girl reside? The daring scale? Call it what you like, it is the degree of comfort level she has with her body, lingerie, risk taking, whatever. Why is this important? Because it is crazy buying her an outfit that she doesn't like, won't wear and thinks you are crazy for buying. Don't force her to wear something you lust after, that she can hardly bring herself to wear. This will come back to haunt you in the form of she may wear it once, and either take it back, or sentence it to 50 years in the back of the closet. That is not to say you buy her a pair of granny panties and a flannel night gown either. Some women may take a gift of a micro mini skirt and crotchless panties and ask when are we going to the nightclub, while others, most others are at least a little reluctant to wear revealing lingerie. Take into account her upbringing, sense of modesty, body image and take it slow. You both can have a terrific time on a slow, smoldering train, as much as on the fast track as long as you are both comfortable, and the issue here is her comfort. After all, she is the one being asked to parade around in skimpy panties, with her boobs, butt and vital parts on display, so show some compassion, as well as passion.



Now, step three: Educate thyself. Remember you can give a man a fish and he eats for a day, while if you teach him how to fish he can eat for a lifetime. Huh? Back to the story. Lingerie, girl or wife, what does she like, what do you like, what would make an appropriate gift. The biggest mistake I see men make when it comes to buying lingerie is "total and complete ignorance". And no wonder. Men rarely shop for the women in their lives. When they do, anniversaries, birthdays, valentines day, christmas, they are usually on a limited time schedule, and they are often poor shoppers. They come ill prepared. They don't know sizes? How can you not know the size of your wifes breasts? How can you not know the size of panties she wears. Come on now, this is where the battle is often lost. No wonder many of the lingerie gifts are a problem. No one wants to get a gift that doesn't fit! Who wants an article of clothing that is too tight, is the wrong color, or fits like a person twice her size should be wearing it. So, come on guys, get with it.

Take a look on the internet and look at the selection of what they have. Call a site that has a toll free number and ask a couple of questions. Drop into a store in your town that carries sexy lingerie and again, ask some questions. Now, here we may have a problem. How do you feel asking that sales girl about sexy lingerie? How do you feel about asking that woman behind the counter about their selection of crotchless panties, breast enhancers or push up bras? Be honest now. If it isn't a problem, go forth and procreate! If it is, stick around cause we are gonna fix it.


Next, step four: crawl before you walk! I thought we were talking about lingerie. Don't buy a boatload of lingerie until and unless you have first determined your skill level. In your trip/s to the lingerie or sex toys store, or in your visits to your favorite website, you should be getting an idea of what she likes, what you like, and the field should narrow. In my experience, not every woman likes every article of lingerie ever made. Many women love panties, or bras, sexy sleepwear, certain brands. Every couple takes a walk on the wild side every now and then, and your walk may be wilder than the next couples, or milder. Where is your relationships sexual and emotional comfort zone? Think about it. The clues are there for the looking? Does she go into seclusion if you recommend an adult movie? Does she offer to wear a body hugging top, no bra, no panties and a micro mini skirt to the church social? Do you have teenagers that critique every thing you and she do? Is she modest, are you modest? Do you wish she would dress like a pop singer who wears no panties? The answer to these and more appropriate questions will tell you much about what to buy her, and then you decide how much to invade her comfort zone, as she may want to be a bit more adventurous in the bedroom, yet maintain her dignity in the boardroom.



Next: Broaden her and your description of what lingerie is, and where it should be worn. Some lingerie items are only for the privacy of your bedroom. Other lingerie can be worn out in the evening or to clubs or movies. Finally, other lingerie can and should be worn wherever she finds herself. You may belong to the club that says, lingerie is for the bedroom only. We are in the 21st century, and many occasions call for sexy clothing, much of it previously relegated for the bedroom. Wherever your comfort zone is, and her comfort zone is, know that over time it will change, and likely get broader. Styles change and so do we.