Saturday, December 8, 2007

Flirty Lingerie or Sexy Lingerie?

Flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie, that is the question. Are you in the flirty lingerie camp or do you prefer the sexy, even slutty lingerie? After owning a lingerie web site for 10 years, and a retail store for four, I have come to a conclusion that there are two camps when it comes to what is desireable in lingerie. The flirty lingerie camp is younger, looking for boyshorts, cami sets and cute lingerie while the sexy lingerie camp is more into open bust, crotchless panties and revealing lingerie that gets a guys pulse rate going. What is this talk about camps? I thought this was a lingerie blog? Well it sure is a lingerie blog but after years of observation it is clear that not everyone is looking for the same thing or effect when it comes to lingerie.

A recent survey in England's Daily Mail suggests that some men aren't turned on by the strappy, complicated sexy lingerie that manufacturers seem to belived. Instead they suggest that simple, flirty and feminine lingerie is what gets the English men's blood boiling. "The classic image of a suspender set with a push-up bra is what most women imagine gets their chap going. As you'll see from the results overleaf, though, nothing could be further from the truth. Whether it's a simple white set-up with a sexy bow, or some cute polka dot pants, the items that score big with our panel - made up of myself, Simon Mills and Alex Bilmes - are those that suggest innocence and fun".

Now, the blokes across may or may not be on to something, but it does closely track purchase patterns by girls under 30. So is age a factor in the type of lingerie women as well as men purchase? The answer is yes! More interesting is why women buy sexier lingerie as they get older. Some answers are fairly obvious while others are more subtle. One likely answer is women get bolder, more confident as they get older and thus their tastes in all things change. The thinking goes that young women ages 20 through 29 are not as confident in bed, not as knowledable about sex and don't find the need or value in wearing sexy lingerie. The gaining of confidence is likely true as men and women need time to gain experience, maturity and confidence. It is a hard argument to make that a 19 year old woman is as experienced as a 30, 35 or 40 year old woman. This translates into a woman finding a value in sexy lingerie as she matures.

Similarly many women are in committed relationships as they get older while younger women may not be in such relationships. It may take these relationships for women to feel comfortable in buying and wearing sexy lingerie. Also men would tend to refrain to buy a one night stand or short term lingerie. It is undeniable that many women would not want to go through the ritual of wearing sexy lingerie after dating for a week or perhaps even a couple of months. Wearing sexy lingerie is an act that usually requires a woman to be in a relationship for a period of time rather than on a first date.

Different women find lingerie of value at different times in their lives. Many young women don't appreciate the value of lingerie for a variety of reasons. One may be that the men in their lives are not as interested in forplay or a romantic evening preferring to participate in sexual relations without the pre game of soft music, watching a video, soft lighting and so on. A larger number of women enjoy the total experience of a romantic evening and sexy lingerie is an integral part of this enjoyable experience. Many if not most women prefer men to take their time, arouse her, kiss her, make her feel special rather than slam, bam thank you maam! Small wonder!

We all remember the spontaniety of the first time we had sex, the urgency of making love in the car, at a friends house, when our parents were away and all that lust. As we age the definition of sex changes to some degree and along with that time women and men see sexy lingerie as a good thing. Regardless of the reasons flirty lingerie or sexy lingerie remains a question only now they both have their own time and place.

Friday, December 7, 2007

To wear Panties or not to wear Panties, that is the question?

Should women wear panties or not wear panties is a daily question for women. Whether a woman should wear panties or not wear panties is ultimately her choice to make, and the question is why is it anyone's business. Ok, Brittany Spears and Lindsay Lohan were caught not wearing panties . TMZ and all the other paparazzi sites were aghast. The basic structure of the free world was compromised. Mothers were locking up their children as they were afraid their daughters might follow the leader. These two "women" had violated the rule against letting the world know some women don't wear panties on occasion. The league of no "vpl" (visible panty lines) considered sanctions against these two pantiless women. Men didn't really know what to say or do. How could the star of the Parent Trap expose the fire crotch?

Get over it! Anyone who knows anything about fashion, or lack of it, and women, especially young ones knew ages ago that some girls don't wear panties. Many women expressed disgust as how unsanitary it is not to wear panties. Others discussed the relative merits of shaving ones pubic area. Still others suggested that not wearing panties was an accident waiting to happen. You girls know exactly what I mean. You guys can pretend to not know what I mean.

So not that the dust has settled. Now that Brittany has apologized? Has she? Now that western civilazation seems to have withstood the likelihood that a couple of young hotties don't actually wear underwear we need to analyze the effect of this development. First, girls haven't been wearing panties long before Brittany's and Lindsay's public displays of erogenous zones.

Panties were originally designed to protect the garments of the day. Back in the day there were dry cleaners on every corner. Any woman who could afford a dress was well, wealthy. Bathing was an occasional act, not an everyday occurence, sometimes more than once. The reason behind undergarments was far differant than today. Today the panties women wear are snug even tight. Panties are colorful, and often seen as they peek out of low rise jeans and mini skirts. Women trim their pubic regions often to landing strips or even going bald down there. So what is the big deal with not wearing any panties?

Not much. While there are no exact figures available, a survey by Freshpair suggested that 15% of women don't wear panties on occasion. Does that sound possible? If you are over 30, then likely not. The phenomenon of not wearing panties is not all that recent as many women of all ages don't wear panties with pantyhose. Women generally don't wear panties with bodystockings, bodysuits and who can blame them.

I don't generally wear panties in the summer and you will just have to deal with that. Winter is another matter altogether. What? Well, modesty aside, panties are just not a necessity. Not a necessity. Ueeeewww, gross you say. Ok, so it isnt for everybody. Isn't meant to be. I don't care if you wear panties, or if you do. It is a very personal decision. I love the feeling! I like the freedom of not having to wear panties, and if I decide to wear them, I do. Take the poll and lets see what it shows. I think we all may be surprised.

Corsets as Sexy Outerwear

Corsets are sexy outerwear and more than sexy lingerie. Sexy corsets should be worn out to clubs, dinners and parties as sexy outerwear.

So why don't you own one? What is holding you back? Is it because you think they are just for weddings, or something your mother or grandmother would wear? Or is it just because corsets are lingerie? Corsets have a long history and yes your grand mother probably wore a corset and she probably didn't care for it much. You have probably seen the images of women in Victorian times being squeezed into a corset by a maid or friend. The fashion of the day was to wear a corset to achieve the hourglass figure popular at the time. The corset did its job as you were laced into one and the tighter it became the better you looked. That is if you wanted to have a waist the size of a modern day CD. Women were supposed to look like they had full, voluptuous breasts, a tiny waist and blossoming hips. Actually it is no more bizarre than the women sticks that prowl the runways of fashion shows weighing in at 90 pounds and absent are their breasts, hips and butt cheeks. The pain women endure for being fashionable. Corsets evolved into girdles and in the late 1950's they were very popular as they were slimming, toning and dreadfully ugly. Gone were much of the lacing and boning, replaced by stretch fabric, heavy stitching and hook and eye closures. They were meant to be worn, not seen and they were functional garments available in many varieties from full length girdles that went from the breasts to the crotch, many with garters straps for stockings. Others rested under the breasts, while many were over sized panties that covered a woman's problem areas around her thighs, tummy and buttocks.

Corsets available now are more colorful, comfortable and classically sexy than ever before. Corsets were and are made to slim the waist and accentuate the bust. Corsets have been around for hundreds of years and are the predecessor of girdles and more recently, shapers. Unfortunately corsets were made of heavy material, had whale bones to maintain structure and fit and were usually found in only nude, black or white. Women, righfully so, complained of the pain in wearing a corset, its bulkyness and over time the corset fell out of favor. Women only wore one when they absolutely had to as they simply didn't care to endure the pain. Along came the 1960's, stretch lycra and corsets saw a resurgence of sorts.

If you have a perfect bust, and a perfect waist, corsets are still for you as they come in some hot colors, and they make your favorite skirt or jeans look better.

Corsets are certainly made for brides to be, and they have been popular for many, many years. It is just that the corsets available today are just too hot to believe. Woman come in and try on our corsets, and their boobs spill out over the top of the corset, just as the corset was made to do, and the colors are from dark, luxurious colors to flirty pastels, and everything in between.

So why aren't you getting up and running out to buy a corset? The cost? Well most of our corsets run in the $49.00 to $69.00 range. What do you get for the money? A top you can wear anywhere, under a jacket or all alone. A lingerie garment that looks positively hot in the bedroom. Yes, corsets do double duty and that makes the corset a great value.

Is that all? Not really as they can also be used as an integral part of a sexy costume. Anything else? Sure you can wear them to work, dinner, movies or on that special date!

Am I done? Sort of. If that isn't enough then you probably will never buy a corset, but you have to agree that they are stunning, and they feel just great. When I tried on my first corset, I though that it would be uncomfortable. Well, the first thing I noticed is what it did for my boobs. Yes, my boobs looked bigger, and I suddenly had great cleavage. Next was I could cinch it up to a point where I was comfortable, and I had a slimmer waist. I know you want a corset now, so get up and go over to Flirty Lingerie and check out the selection.

Lingerie for the Holidays: Sexy Lingerie for Christmas and New Years

Buy her sexy lingerie for the holidays as the gift of lingerie for Christmas is what she wants. Buying sexy lingerie for her is a personal gift that makes a statement that you find her desirable and sexy. The holidays are a time for sexy lingerie and intimate evenings. Forget the stress and strain of holiday shopping and family meals, and remember that relationships can be strained with all the things to do, parties to attend and shopping to do. Don't forget to plan some time alone, to rekindle the romance or just have some serious adult fun. Lingerie is the perfect antidote to the holiday blues.

The holidays are a time for family, true, but your wife or girlfriend is a part of the family too, isn't she? She deserves some special lingerie and so do you. Also don't forget one of the most romantic holidays are just around the corner. So much attention is paid to Christmas, many people almost forget that New Year's Eve is the week after Christmas and we all know how hectic that can be.

Yes, New Years Eve is a very romantic time of the year. I always wondered why everyone seems to get so excited about the New Years holiday. Isn't it just an excuse to party until midnight, toast each other, kiss your loved one as what you are doing on New Year's is a prediction of what you will be doing all year long, right? Well, over the last couple of years, New Years have become very romantic, because I have made it romantic. Start planning now, cause the reservations will be taken fast. Wherever you live there will be New Years celebrations and you have your choices. There are the parties held by friends and families. There are the parties held by the major hotels in your area. I suggest you try one of these major parties with all the trimmings including the hotel room and breakfast the next morning.

This is the time for sexy lingerie . If you have kids, get a baby sitter who can spend the night. Plan a luxurious evening complete with dinner, dancing, a midnight snack, breakfast and have I left anything out? Of course! Romance! Last year my husband and I reserved a local hotel room that had dinner for two complete with champagne, the room and a breakfast buffet. Not as extravagant as previous years, but memorable nonetheless. We packed for an evening of fun. Don't forget the swimsuits for the heated pool or jacuzzi. An extra bottle of wine, or two. A digital camera and of course, sexy panties , bra and panty sets and precious alone time.

We started off the evening off with a romantic candle light dinner and had a little dessert to top it all off. When we got back to the room, we relaxed for a while, then headed down to the heated pool, jacuzzi and sauna. Luckily they were all indoors, but thankfully we took our little plastic cups and a bottle of wine and divided our time between the relatively cool pool and the steaming jacuzzi. Wow, what a relaxing time, but we headed back to the room just in time for midnight, and the ball in Times Square on television.

Out came the lingerie and the camera, and we all know that these two items were made for each other. My outfit was a combination of sexy sheer thigh highs, a bra and panty set and a pair of 4 inch platforms, boy did I look hot and trashy! I won't go into any more details, but the next morning came way too soon. We got up and dressed and got down to the New Years brunch about noon, and while we weren't terribly hungry, the coffee and sweets were appreciated.

On the way home we both agreed that this was going to be a happy New Year.

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater?

Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater is a dilemna men face every holiday. Does your lover prefer a sweater or sexy lingerie for Christmas? Sexy lingerie or a sweater? Maybe a toaster, or a gift certificate to the mall. Has the romance sputtered out of your romantic relationship? Well the answers to those and many other pressing questions is right here in our first annual Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater?

Christmas is a time for family, Christmas is for kids, Christmas is a time for peace and good will towards men. So the answer to the age old question, Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater? is a sweater. Who wants to open a gift in front of the kids, grandma and mom and dad to find a sexy crotchless panty and matching open cup bra? Can anyone spell embarrasing? So the answer is surely sweater, right? Christmas is a time of running around buying gifts, cooking, entertaining and wrapping gifts, right? Romance is for Valentine's or maybe an anniversary, possibly on the that vacation a man and a woman take after they retire, correct? Well pilgrims, the answer is Christmas is a time to light the fires of romance, rekindle the bonds of sensuality between the two of you. Fact is you better buy her something personal, meaningful and from the heart. So run out and drop a couple of bucks on a bracelet, earrings, necklace or a leather coat, but don't forget the romance, lest you be looking for another mate down the road. Huh? Am I suggesting that if you don't buy her some sexy lingerie you will be getting a divorce or a seperation? No, of course not! Just that why miss this opportunity to connect with your mate at a special time of year.

Fact is, Christmas is not generally looked at as a time for romance. Christmas is looked at as a time for family, which is sometimes the exact opposite of romance. So what to do? Well here are a few suggestions:

First of all buy her a sweater. But, please look to see if she really needs one, or is it just that the store in the mall needs to sell a couple of thousand more sweaters. Point is- Be thoughtful! Buy her a coat, sweater, gloves, or whatever she likes, needs or perhaps even wants. Be generous, but by all means be thoughtful.

Second, buy her some lingerie. Why, you ask? Because it is a very personal gift as you are really saying "I want to see you in this outfit, only just you and I". This is pretty thoughtful, and very personal. But she doesn't like, or she doesn't wear lingerie, you say. Well, here is where getting thoughtful comes in. She loves lingerie! Yes, she loves lingerie as every woman loves pretty things, useful things, thoughtful gifts. But when you have bought lingerie in the past, it ends up in the lingerie drawer never to be seen again! So why should I buy her that again? The answer is obvious, did you buy her what she likes, or what you like? Did you do a little research, or wander into the lingerie department at the department store in the mall, and think that was enough.

The mistake many men make in buying lingerie is they are lousy buyers. In other words, they know little about the subject except what they like to see a woman wearing, possibly what they saw in Playboy, Maxim or any other men's magazine. But, do they know what the woman in their life wants? Do they talk with their wife or girlfriend about wht she likes and dislikes in lingerie? Not likely. So what is a man to do?

1. Get to know a little about lingerie! What is a babydoll? What is a camisole set? What kind of lingerie do women with small breasts prefer as opposed to women with large breasts? Is there a difference? What sizes does your wife, or girlfriend wear? What is her favorite color? Where does she buy her bras, panties, hosiery or intimate apparel? Damn, this is a lot of information to get and how do I get it? Relax! Take it one step at a time, and the rest will follow. The next time she goes out to the grocery store, or wherever, take a look in her lingerie/hosiery drawers. In between the nude pictures of her former boyfriends, just kidding, write down her bra size from a bra you know she presently wears, not that sexy model she wore on the date you got to third base on, you dog! Is there a label? Where does she shop? Come on, you have seen enough episodes of Miami, CSI , dig for the evidence, you will be justly rewarded! 5-10 minutes of poking around will give you most of what you need. You will need to know her bra size, panty or jeans/slacks size, weight, height and waist size. Don't get all silly if you don't get it all, but remember when you are buying something for your girl, telling the woman in the lingerie store, or online that she is about that tall won't really help much. Now, make sure the information is safely in your wallet, and onto step two.

Step Two: On the daring scale, where does your girl reside? The daring scale? Call it what you like, it is the degree of comfort level she has with her body, lingerie, risk taking, whatever. Why is this important? Because it is crazy buying her an outfit that she doesn't like, won't wear and thinks you are crazy for buying. Don't force her to wear something you lust after, that she can hardly bring herself to wear. This will come back to haunt you in the form of she may wear it once, and either take it back, or sentence it to 50 years in the back of the closet. That is not to say you buy her a pair of granny panties and a flannel night gown either. Some women may take a gift of a micro mini skirt and crotchless panties and ask when are we going to the nightclub, while others, most others are at least a little reluctant to wear revealing lingerie. Take into account her upbringing, sense of modesty, body image and take it slow. You both can have a terrific time on a slow, smoldering train, as much as on the fast track as long as you are both comfortable, and the issue here is her comfort. After all, she is the one being asked to parade around in skimpy panties, with her boobs, butt and vital parts on display, so show some compassion, as well as passion.

Now, step three: Educate thyself. Remember you can give a man a fish and he eats for a day, while if you teach him how to fish he can eat for a lifetime. Huh? Back to the story. Lingerie, girl or wife, what does she like, what do you like, what would make an appropriate gift. The biggest mistake I see men make when it comes to buying lingerie is "total and complete ignorance". And no wonder. Men rarely shop for the women in their lives. When they do, anniversaries, birthdays, valentines day, christmas, they are usually on a limited time schedule, and they are often poor shoppers. They come ill prepared. They don't know sizes? How can you not know the size of your wifes breasts? How can you not know the size of panties she wears. Come on now, this is where the battle is often lost. No wonder many of the lingerie gifts are a problem. No one wants to get a gift that doesn't fit! Who wants an article of clothing that is too tight, is the wrong color, or fits like a person twice her size should be wearing it. So, come on guys, get with it.

Take a look on the internet and look at the selection of what they have. Call a site that has a toll free number and ask a couple of questions. Drop into a store in your town that carries sexy lingerie and again, ask some questions. Now, here we may have a problem. How do you feel asking that sales girl about sexy lingerie? How do you feel about asking that woman behind the counter about their selection of crotchless panties, breast enhancers or push up bras? Be honest now. If it isn't a problem, go forth and procreate! If it is, stick around cause we are gonna fix it.

Next, step four: crawl before you walk! I thought we were talking about lingerie. Don't buy a boatload of lingerie until and unless you have first determined your skill level. In your trip/s to the lingerie or sex toys store, or in your visits to your favorite website, you should be getting an idea of what she likes, what you like, and the field should narrow. In my experience, not every woman likes every article of lingerie ever made. Many women love panties, or bras, sexy sleepwear, certain brands. Every couple takes a walk on the wild side every now and then, and your walk may be wilder than the next couples, or milder. Where is your relationships sexual and emotional comfort zone? Think about it. The clues are there for the looking? Does she go into seclusion if you recommend an adult movie? Does she offer to wear a body hugging top, no bra, no panties and a micro mini skirt to the church social? Do you have teenagers that critique every thing you and she do? Is she modest, are you modest? Do you wish she would dress like a pop singer who wears no panties? The answer to these and more appropriate questions will tell you much about what to buy her, and then you decide how much to invade her comfort zone, as she may want to be a bit more adventurous in the bedroom, yet maintain her dignity in the boardroom.

Next: Broaden her and your description of what lingerie is, and where it should be worn. Some lingerie items are only for the privacy of your bedroom. Other lingerie can be worn out in the evening or to clubs or movies. Finally, other lingerie can and should be worn wherever she finds herself. You may belong to the club that says, lingerie is for the bedroom only. We are in the 21st century, and many occasions call for sexy clothing, much of it previously relegated for the bedroom. Wherever your comfort zone is, and her comfort zone is, know that over time it will change, and likely get broader. Styles change and so do we.

Men's Favorite Lingerie - Sexy or Slutty

Is men's favorite lingerie sexy or slutty lingerie? What difference does it make if a men's favorite lingerie is slutty or sexy lingerie? Why should we care what are men's favorite lingerie items? Simply put, many,but not all women wear lingerie for the men in their lives. Even if a woman doesn't wear lingerie for a man, men's ideas of what is sexy is at least interesting, and perhaps instructional. It is said that men are more visual than women. What does that mean? Does it mean men use visual methods of determining which women are good for breeding? Or men engage in and enjoy visual media like magazines and videos which depict sexual images or sexual contact? Historically men judge who they will mate with on the basis of appearance more than women? Whatever the truth is, and for what good it does, the truth is men love to see women whether they be dressed or undressed. The comedian , Ron "Tater Salad" White says in his act something to the effect of " once you see one woman naked, well you wanna see them all naked"!

This isn't the place to argue about human evolution, whether men are more visual than women, and what arouses men. The truth is that lingerie is a lubricant in the human sexual machine. Lingerie is sexy clothing, and we girls can learn something about what looks good, and not so good from what men like. Forget about whether we wear sexy panties for men, for women or for ourselves. Accept the fact that panties can be utilitarian as in a cloth covering used for sanitary purposes, or much more than that, as in erotic clothing used to arouse and stimulate emotion. Don't forget, this isn't a scientific study, girls, as I am getting a lot of my input from my husband, his friends and other men in our circle of friends. Is it conclusive, no, but I think much of it has value, as their opinions, and my experiences may be interesting and possibly even educational. On second thought I don't think they rise to the level of educational, but they are fun to write about.

First, lets start at the beginning. That beginning is sexy panties, as they are what women likely put on first in the morning! Today, less is more and the same can be said for panties. When the contest is what are men's favorite panties? Thongs and g-strings are the winner. A thong exposes a woman's butt, and that is a good thing. The wisp of fabric that frames a woman's bottom is provocative and appealing. You say that you don't have the butt for it, well get over it! There is nothing worse that a pair of full bottom, full back granny panties. Full coverage is simply wrong. Remember we are looking at this subject from a man's perspective and showing off your assets is paramount. If you are of the school that thongs are mere butt floss, and you don't like how they feel climbing between your cheeks, remember the name of the article. We are talking about men's favorite lingerie, and the clear winner is thongs and g-strings over granny panties. Nothing turns a man off more than the sight of a pair of nude panties the size of New Jersey that hang between the belly button and the upper thigh with enough fabric to cover the car in the driveway. Hence, the name granny panties.

Thongs are the most popular women's panties and this is a relatively recent development. Bikini panties were the sexy panties of a couple of generations ago, but now the thong is king, or queen. Somewhere in there is the g-string pantie as a skimpier cousin of the thong. While some men find a woman's breasts as their favorite female body part, many are butt lovers, and who can blame them. The thong exposes the female butt unlike any bra can accent the breasts. Thongs are a mere wisp of fabric that covers the nether region in front with a small amount of cloth, but leaves the back end of a woman completely exposed. The term whale tail
was coined to describe the look of a woman's back with the thong or g-string pantie peeking out as it can be said to look like a whales tail. Love them or hate them, they are here to stay, at least until another fashion trend appears. Showing off your thong panties may be fading in popularity as exposing your coin slot, or the cleavage between your butt cheeks is now considered trampy in some circles. Men, though seem to love the sight of a woman's whale tail or coin slot. Go figure!

The exception to the thong supremacy is sheer panties. Sheer panties can have fuller coverage as they cover and they don't cover. What? Well, sheer fabric makes a woman's body look positively exquisite. Exquisite? Yes, I said it, so run out and buy sheer panties and ask the guy in your life what he thinks. I guarantee he will love them for the way they look and feel. Sinfully sexy and sheerly sensuous. Don't argue with me, just do it and gauge the reaction. Sheer fabric is a staple in the lingerie business and the reason is year in and year out, sheer sells! A sheer pair of panties under a short skirt is a voyeurs paradise. Sheer fabric is very sexy and every woman should have at least one pair of sheer black panties, even fishnet will do. Remember panties are sexy lingerie, and nothing will please him like you showing him your new pair of thongs or sheer panties.

Since we are on the subject of panties, how can we ignore the crotchless panties ?What is the point you ask? The point is these crotchless panties may be outside your comfort zone, right? Well, he will love the thought of his girl wearing naughty panties that only you and he know have a strategically open crotch. They are made in a variety of styles and colors, and are hugely popular online. Order them online and no one has to know except the two of you, and I promise it will improve your relationship, or at least improve the heat in your romance thermometer. We will leave the subject of vibrating panties for another time, as that is a whole nother enchilada.

Bras are the next essential lingerie item, and luckily girls, they come in all shapes and sizes. Again one sure winner is the sheer underwire bra. They are available everywhere, as women buy them as they show off your breasts, offer support and spill out cleavage. Lace bras are a perennial favorite as well as they are feminine and sexy. But, again men are dogs, and they love the shelf bras and boob out bras. Shelf bras are exactly what the name implies. The bra is more of a shelf than a full coverage bra. You will feel sinful with this bra on underneath your blouse or sweater. The obvious benefit is that your nipples are exposed, and every man loves a pair of headlights in plain view. Boob out bras also give the same effect with only the nipples or nipple area exposed. The boob out bra offers more support than the shelf bra, so you decide. He will love you for either choice.

Before we leave bras and panties, the truth is the choices of bras and panties are awesome, even overwhelming. Experiment with your choices, but if the budget is tight, go for the gold. A sexy pair of panties and a sinfully sheer bra can be the basis of a sexy outfit and he will never tire of looking at the package. After all you are covering the two essential areas of a woman's body, and it is difficult to go wrong as long as you keep in mind that sexy is a pretty simple concept to most men. Simply put, make it sheer, skimpy, short or tight. Black is generally the best color, and try to get a good spandex mix for comfort and fit. Remember, these sexy bits of apparel should perform double duty. Wear them under your work clothes, not just for a romantic evening. Make them a matching set and you both will enjoy them for a long time. Take some time to shop for lingerie with the combination of sex appeal, comfort and functionality. Yes, enjoy the sexy lingerie, wear it and show it off!

Find your sexy lingerie at Flirty Lingerie .

Friday, October 19, 2007

Why do I wear Sexy Lingerie?

Why do I wear sexy lingerie is an easy question to answer. I wear sexy lingerie because sexy lingerie makes me look sexy and appealing and sexy lingerie arouses my husband which makes me feel powerful and desirable. What do you think of when someone mentions lingerie? Sex, is the response many will answer. Lingerie is synonymous with romance and intimacy. Mention the word lingerie, and immediately the thought of a romantic encounter between a man and a woman comes to mind. The french word lingerie means women's intimate apparel. Intimate means, well intimate, as in panties, bras and items that women wear around or near her erogenous zones. Many men are uncomfortable going into a lingerie department or lingerie store as though every one will know why they are buying that lingerie. The thought of wearing sexy and skimpy lingerie makes many women a bit nervous, me included. Most lingerie exposes my tummy, and thighs which isn't always a good thing. I have a couple of drawers full of bra sets, teddies, thigh high hose and more, most of which was worn one time in the privacy of my bedroom, or out of the glare of anyone but my husbands eyes. So the question is why do I wear sexy lingerie?

One answer is because the men in my life have bought it for me, suggested or insisted I purchase it and as I get older I like showing off my sexuality. So there I said it! I wear it for him, more than for me. When my first boyfriend suggested I wear sexy underwear, I had the body for it, but not the inclination. After I got married, my husband went to Connecticut for a three week business trip, and came home with a silk cami tap set, which was worn only occasionally. While it was really pretty, the tap pants were not form fitting, and I didn't like the color-cream, so began the lingerie drawer.

I should draw a distinction that exists when it comes to lingerie. There is lingerie, and then there is sexy lingerie. Most every woman wears lingerie every day, whether to work, at home or out for an evening to dinner or the movies. They may not call it lingerie, as wearing a bra and panties hardly qualifies as lingerie, but in fact it is. Sexy lingerie is both a physical and spiritual definition. Huh? Well women often buy lingerie for a purpose. When the purpose is for work, or everyday wear, that, in my opinion, is lingerie or foundations .

Foundations? Yes. foundations are bras, panties and shapers formerly known as girdles and other every day underwear worn by women every day, all day from the time they get out of the shower, to the time they arrive at home and dress for the evening. Sexy lingerie is usually less supportive, more feminine, more revealing, and generally not worn to work. Sexy lingerie is what women wear when romance is on her mind, or on her man's mind. I may be wrong, but I doubt my husband will buy me a shaper if he desires an evening of romance. You think?

The lingerie I wear every day, I buy for myself, not my man, or anyone else for that matter. That lingerie needs to be comfortable, offer me support as I am a 38D bra size, and most sexy lingerie doesn't meet the requirements. Lingerie as intimate apparel is functional, comfortable and possibly sexy. While I like feeling and looking sexy, it is not a priority when I am wearing lingerie all day, and wishing I hadn't. My lingerie drawers, not my sexy lingerie drawer is full of bras, panties and hose. The primary color is black with occasional nude and white, perhaps a navy blue. My sexy lingerie drawer has reds, black and no nude.

While I might wear sexy lingerie more often if I had a "perfect body" I doubt it. Sexy lingerie is generally a novelty and everyone knows you don't need lingerie for an evening of romance. So why do I wear sexy lingerie? Because the moment I think of wearing lingerie my imagination gets a little boost. A woman in sexy lingerie is sexier than a woman in the nude. While this could create a huge argument, that is my opinion. A nude woman is very sexy, it is just that a woman in the right sexy lingerie is sexier! I know that there is a difference of opinion about this, but here is my case. If clothes make the man, then sexy lingerie makes a woman appear sexier, more desirable and alluring. Sexy lingerie is all about the visual story or drama a woman creates with the various sexy lingerie items she wear. A sexy shelf bra makes a woman's breasts look larger, and exaggerates them in a very suggestive manner, pushing them up and out. A garter belt is old school sexy that is very suggestive of a sexual being, an erotic look that is very sexy, in this context. What is sexier than a pair of panties, sheer perhaps, covering, just barely a woman's most private part and then a pair of stockings held up by the garters. The picture this woman creates is one of suggestive sexuality. Add a pair of high heels, and the look is complete.

Getting dressed in this sexy lingerie outfit is sure to put you in the mood for romance. I rarely wear a shelf bra as it exaggerates my bust, and this is reserved for special moments. While I have many sheer panties, the garter belt is truly a step back in time. Pantyhose almost threatened to relegate garter belts to the trash heap of clothing history along with nehru jackets ,and leisure suits. A garter belt takes time to put on and along with slipping on the thigh high stockings, is not quite as simple as slipping on a pair of hideous panty hose. It is impossible to look at myself in this outfit without thinking " I am sexier than before I put this on"., to say the least. I know that when he sees me in this outfit, I am hot. I feel hot, I look hot.

So why don't I wear this more often? Or outfits similar to this? I have thought about this and I think there are a couple of reasons. One is time, or spontaneity. While it doesn't take a long time to get dressed this way, I feel compelled to redo my makeup, fix my hair and get dressed so the time is a factor. Next is I feel very exposed. Obviously, right! But I also mean there is little left to the imagination here. Shelf bra, sheer panties, thigh highs and high heels. My insecurities get in the way. Once I am dressed, I do feel and look sexy, at least he thinks so. Perhaps if I was more of an exhibitionist I would go for it more often. If it is true that there is a time and a place for everything then there is a time and a place for sexy lingerie. The time and the place are generally at night, on the weekends and on vacation. Many couples, including myself have a sort of ritual for wearing sexy lingerie. Due to its charged nature, sexy lingerie sends a distinct message reserved for the lover in your life. The question some men may ask is "why don't you greet me in the evening after work at the door with a martini in one hand, wearing skimpy lingerie"? The answer is likely either "the kids will see me half naked", or perhaps "I am not the type to just dress up in lingerie because that will tell you what I want"!

The message sent by wearing sexy lingerie is unmistakably sexual or romantic. Lingerie and romance are inextricably intertwined and no one mistakes wearing lingerie for anything else. One wears sexy lingerie to encourage intimacy, but why wear it at all? Why not just go naked? Why waste the money buying lingerie when it just stays on a few minutes anyway? It is a method of expressing a woman's sexuality, showing off her erogenous zones in a flattering way. Many of the things we do are genetically wired into us as men and women. I am not suggesting that sexy lingerie is in our genetic code but expressing our needs certainly is. Wearing sexy lingerie is a ritual of sorts and the older we get the stronger the desire to engage in the ritual becomes. I wear sexy lingerie in part because everyone tells me to wear it! Television, commercials, movies, men, women, even parents all reinforce the idea of wearing lingerie for the sake of romance. I wear it for me, for him because when I am buying it I am thinking about romance, when I am wearing it there is little else one can think of other than intimacy. I associate sexy lingerie with very pleasant memories, adult encounters and adult pleasures. I wear sexy lingerie because it makes me feel good! It makes me look more feminine, more like a woman, more desirable and of course, sexy.