Happy Valentine's Night from Flirty Lingerie!

Flirty Lingerie is excited about Valentine's Night! When someone says have a Happy Valentines Day, correct them and say no, have a Happy Valentine's Night! Valentine's Night is when the fun begins, or ends and you know it. While it may not be politically correct to say it, the truth is you know that Valentine's Night is what Valentine's Day is all about.

Since you were a child you were taught to exchange Valentine's cards with your little class mates. The cards were endearing cards that asked your friends to be your Valentine! You bought little heart candies that had romantic words and sayings such as Be Mine, Sweetheart and Love You! Fine for a fifth grader, but you aren't a fifth grader anymore. You are all grown up, and Valentine's Night is meant just for you!

Valentine's Night is all about adults!

Happy Valentine's Night!

Happy Valentines' Day should really be Happy Valentine's Night for couples. Happy Valentine's Night is more appropriate as Valentines is celebrated at night, at dinner, or even in bed. I suggest you look at this from a more realistic perspective. Valentines Day is all about romance! Valentines Day has really nothing to do with the day, but rather the night. Anyone who has been in love, searching for love, or simply thinking about Love on Valentines Day knows exactly what I mean. Don't deny it cause you know it is true.



For those who don't get what I mean, let me explain! Valentines Day is about chocolate which is renowned for its erotic and potentially aphrodisiac value. Flowers are a symbol of romance and are given as a symbol of friendship, and so much more. Sexy lingerie is simply about romance and an evening filled with erotic thoughts and behaviour. What about that romantic dinner? What about that extravagant gift of diamonds or jewels? The gifts given during the day, or cards exchanged during daylight hours are all about what one or both hopes or believes will occur after the sun goes down, thus why I say that Valentines Day is all about Valentines Night.

To be sure, Valentine's is anticipated by many, and dreaded by others. Many people do not have a Valentine on Valentine's Night. Admit it, it may be you, as it was once me. On Valentines Day you see it, and actually for many weeks prior. The commercials such as every Kiss begins with K!, or are you getting her or him candy, a card, jewelry, or maybe even a car for Valentines Day? To be sure the day has become like a lot of special days, just another reason for Hallmark to design a card. I even saw a card on a Mexican food restaurant that said " Celebrate Valentines Day with us! That is not to say that eating Mexican food on Valentines Day is inappropriate, it may be a wonderful idea, but I just never thought of it as particularly romantic.

How do I suggest you celebrate Valentine's Night? Well, I think you know that it must contain some sexy lingerie. But it should start with acts of love and kindness that will make the sexy lingerie an even better idea. Consider these ideas! I believe in inexpensive ideas, just lots of them: Go to his or her work and fill their car with balloons! Yes, fill it! I will never forget when my boyfriend did this for me. All my friends at work were so excited to see my face when I saw it, and passers by honked and I was embarrased in a totally delighted way. Arrange for him or her to get a special delivery- preferably not flowers. Try cookie bouquets and while telling him or her you love them, also tell them not to bring them home as they are for her/him and their work mates to share.

How about the good old sign displayed on the way home. While some areas do not allow them, many still let you rent a small sign for the day with a special message for the Valentines girl or guy. Here's a good one. Order their favorite food or other item and have it special delivered via Fed Ex. My husband will NEVER forget when I arraned to have Randy's Donuts from Inglewood California Fed Exe'd to arrive on the day. The people at Randy's were awesome. Remember the huge donut that towers over the donut shop in Los Angeles? You have seen it in movies, tv, print, almost everywhere as it is a cultural landmark. Well, the donuts are perfect, if not a very guilty pleasure. Imagine his or her surprise when their special pizza from John's Pizza in Greenwich Village in New York shows up! Wow! How about their special cheese cake from The Cheesecak Factory? The list is endless and you know what she or he really loves! Almost all of them have websites, or of course a phone!

Finally, make sure the final surprise of the evening is sexy underwear from FlirtyLingerie.com.

Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater?

Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater is a dilemna men face every holiday. Does your lover prefer a sweater or sexy lingerie for Christmas? Sexy lingerie or a sweater? Maybe a toaster, or a gift certificate to the mall. Has the romance sputtered out of your romantic relationship? Well the answers to those and many other pressing questions is right here in our first annual Christmas: Lingerie or a sweater?

Christmas is a time for family, Christmas is for kids, Christmas is a time for peace and good will towards men. So the answer to the age old question, Christmas: Lingerie or a Sweater? is a sweater. Who wants to open a gift in front of the kids, grandma and mom and dad to find a sexy crotchless panty and matching open cup bra? Can anyone spell embarrasing? So the answer is surely sweater, right? Christmas is a time of running around buying gifts, cooking, entertaining and wrapping gifts, right? Romance is for Valentine's or maybe an anniversary, possibly on the that vacation a man and a woman take after they retire, correct? Well pilgrims, the answer is Christmas is a time to light the fires of romance, rekindle the bonds of sensuality between the two of you. Fact is you better buy her something personal, meaningful and from the heart. So run out and drop a couple of bucks on a bracelet, earrings, necklace or a leather coat, but don't forget the romance, lest you be looking for another mate down the road. Huh? Am I suggesting that if you don't buy her some sexy lingerie you will be getting a divorce or a seperation? No, of course not! Just that why miss this opportunity to connect with your mate at a special time of year.


Fact is, Christmas is not generally looked at as a time for romance. Christmas is looked at as a time for family, which is sometimes the exact opposite of romance. So what to do? Well here are a few suggestions:

First of all buy her a sweater. But, please look to see if she really needs one, or is it just that the store in the mall needs to sell a couple of thousand more sweaters. Point is- Be thoughtful! Buy her a coat, sweater, gloves, or whatever she likes, needs or perhaps even wants. Be generous, but by all means be thoughtful.



Second, buy her some lingerie. Why, you ask? Because it is a very personal gift as you are really saying "I want to see you in this outfit, only just you and I". This is pretty thoughtful, and very personal. But she doesn't like, or she doesn't wear lingerie, you say. Well, here is where getting thoughtful comes in. She loves lingerie! Yes, she loves lingerie as every woman loves pretty things, useful things, thoughtful gifts. But when you have bought lingerie in the past, it ends up in the lingerie drawer never to be seen again! So why should I buy her that again? The answer is obvious, did you buy her what she likes, or what you like? Did you do a little research, or wander into the lingerie department at the department store in the mall, and think that was enough.



The mistake many men make in buying lingerie is they are lousy buyers. In other words, they know little about the subject except what they like to see a woman wearing, possibly what they saw in Playboy, Maxim or any other men's magazine. But, do they know what the woman in their life wants? Do they talk with their wife or girlfriend about wht she likes and dislikes in lingerie? Not likely. So what is a man to do?




1. Get to know a little about lingerie! What is a babydoll? What is a camisole set? What kind of lingerie do women with small breasts prefer as opposed to women with large breasts? Is there a difference? What sizes does your wife, or girlfriend wear? What is her favorite color? Where does she buy her bras, panties, hosiery or intimate apparel? Damn, this is a lot of information to get and how do I get it? Relax! Take it one step at a time, and the rest will follow. The next time she goes out to the grocery store, or wherever, take a look in her lingerie/hosiery drawers. In between the nude pictures of her former boyfriends, just kidding, write down her bra size from a bra you know she presently wears, not that sexy model she wore on the date you got to third base on, you dog! Is there a label? Where does she shop? Come on, you have seen enough episodes of Miami, CSI , dig for the evidence, you will be justly rewarded! 5-10 minutes of poking around will give you most of what you need. You will need to know her bra size, panty or jeans/slacks size, weight, height and waist size. Don't get all silly if you don't get it all, but remember when you are buying something for your girl, telling the woman in the lingerie store, or online that she is about that tall won't really help much. Now, make sure the information is safely in your wallet, and onto step two.



Step Two: On the daring scale, where does your girl reside? The daring scale? Call it what you like, it is the degree of comfort level she has with her body, lingerie, risk taking, whatever. Why is this important? Because it is crazy buying her an outfit that she doesn't like, won't wear and thinks you are crazy for buying. Don't force her to wear something you lust after, that she can hardly bring herself to wear. This will come back to haunt you in the form of she may wear it once, and either take it back, or sentence it to 50 years in the back of the closet. That is not to say you buy her a pair of granny panties and a flannel night gown either. Some women may take a gift of a micro mini skirt and crotchless panties and ask when are we going to the nightclub, while others, most others are at least a little reluctant to wear revealing lingerie. Take into account her upbringing, sense of modesty, body image and take it slow. You both can have a terrific time on a slow, smoldering train, as much as on the fast track as long as you are both comfortable, and the issue here is her comfort. After all, she is the one being asked to parade around in skimpy panties, with her boobs, butt and vital parts on display, so show some compassion, as well as passion.



Now, step three: Educate thyself. Remember you can give a man a fish and he eats for a day, while if you teach him how to fish he can eat for a lifetime. Huh? Back to the story. Lingerie, girl or wife, what does she like, what do you like, what would make an appropriate gift. The biggest mistake I see men make when it comes to buying lingerie is "total and complete ignorance". And no wonder. Men rarely shop for the women in their lives. When they do, anniversaries, birthdays, valentines day, christmas, they are usually on a limited time schedule, and they are often poor shoppers. They come ill prepared. They don't know sizes? How can you not know the size of your wifes breasts? How can you not know the size of panties she wears. Come on now, this is where the battle is often lost. No wonder many of the lingerie gifts are a problem. No one wants to get a gift that doesn't fit! Who wants an article of clothing that is too tight, is the wrong color, or fits like a person twice her size should be wearing it. So, come on guys, get with it.

Take a look on the internet and look at the selection of what they have. Call a site that has a toll free number and ask a couple of questions. Drop into a store in your town that carries sexy lingerie and again, ask some questions. Now, here we may have a problem. How do you feel asking that sales girl about sexy lingerie? How do you feel about asking that woman behind the counter about their selection of crotchless panties, breast enhancers or push up bras? Be honest now. If it isn't a problem, go forth and procreate! If it is, stick around cause we are gonna fix it.


Next, step four: crawl before you walk! I thought we were talking about lingerie. Don't buy a boatload of lingerie until and unless you have first determined your skill level. In your trip/s to the lingerie or sex toys store, or in your visits to your favorite website, you should be getting an idea of what she likes, what you like, and the field should narrow. In my experience, not every woman likes every article of lingerie ever made. Many women love panties, or bras, sexy sleepwear, certain brands. Every couple takes a walk on the wild side every now and then, and your walk may be wilder than the next couples, or milder. Where is your relationships sexual and emotional comfort zone? Think about it. The clues are there for the looking? Does she go into seclusion if you recommend an adult movie? Does she offer to wear a body hugging top, no bra, no panties and a micro mini skirt to the church social? Do you have teenagers that critique every thing you and she do? Is she modest, are you modest? Do you wish she would dress like a pop singer who wears no panties? The answer to these and more appropriate questions will tell you much about what to buy her, and then you decide how much to invade her comfort zone, as she may want to be a bit more adventurous in the bedroom, yet maintain her dignity in the boardroom.



Next: Broaden her and your description of what lingerie is, and where it should be worn. Some lingerie items are only for the privacy of your bedroom. Other lingerie can be worn out in the evening or to clubs or movies. Finally, other lingerie can and should be worn wherever she finds herself. You may belong to the club that says, lingerie is for the bedroom only. We are in the 21st century, and many occasions call for sexy clothing, much of it previously relegated for the bedroom. Wherever your comfort zone is, and her comfort zone is, know that over time it will change, and likely get broader. Styles change and so do we.

Why do I wear Sexy Lingerie?

Why do I wear sexy lingerie is an easy question to answer. I wear sexy lingerie because sexy lingerie makes me look sexy and appealing and sexy lingerie arouses my husband which makes me feel powerful and desirable. What do you think of when someone mentions lingerie? Sex, is the response many will answer. Lingerie is synonymous with romance and intimacy. Mention the word lingerie, and immediately the thought of a romantic encounter between a man and a woman comes to mind. The french word lingerie means women's intimate apparel. Intimate means, well intimate, as in panties, bras and items that women wear around or near her erogenous zones. Many men are uncomfortable going into a lingerie department or lingerie store as though every one will know why they are buying that lingerie. The thought of wearing sexy and skimpy lingerie makes many women a bit nervous, me included. Most lingerie exposes my tummy, and thighs which isn't always a good thing. I have a couple of drawers full of bra sets, teddies, thigh high hose and more, most of which was worn one time in the privacy of my bedroom, or out of the glare of anyone but my husbands eyes. So the question is why do I wear sexy lingerie?



One answer is because the men in my life have bought it for me, suggested or insisted I purchase it and as I get older I like showing off my sexuality. So there I said it! I wear it for him, more than for me. When my first boyfriend suggested I wear sexy underwear, I had the body for it, but not the inclination. After I got married, my husband went to Connecticut for a three week business trip, and came home with a silk cami tap set, which was worn only occasionally. While it was really pretty, the tap pants were not form fitting, and I didn't like the color-cream, so began the lingerie drawer.

I should draw a distinction that exists when it comes to lingerie. There is lingerie, and then there is sexy lingerie. Most every woman wears lingerie every day, whether to work, at home or out for an evening to dinner or the movies. They may not call it lingerie, as wearing a bra and panties hardly qualifies as lingerie, but in fact it is. Sexy lingerie is both a physical and spiritual definition. Huh? Well women often buy lingerie for a purpose. When the purpose is for work, or everyday wear, that, in my opinion, is lingerie or foundations .

Foundations? Yes. foundations are bras, panties and shapers formerly known as girdles and other every day underwear worn by women every day, all day from the time they get out of the shower, to the time they arrive at home and dress for the evening. Sexy lingerie is usually less supportive, more feminine, more revealing, and generally not worn to work. Sexy lingerie is what women wear when romance is on her mind, or on her man's mind. I may be wrong, but I doubt my husband will buy me a shaper if he desires an evening of romance. You think?





The lingerie I wear every day, I buy for myself, not my man, or anyone else for that matter. That lingerie needs to be comfortable, offer me support as I am a 38D bra size, and most sexy lingerie doesn't meet the requirements. Lingerie as intimate apparel is functional, comfortable and possibly sexy. While I like feeling and looking sexy, it is not a priority when I am wearing lingerie all day, and wishing I hadn't. My lingerie drawers, not my sexy lingerie drawer is full of bras, panties and hose. The primary color is black with occasional nude and white, perhaps a navy blue. My sexy lingerie drawer has reds, black and no nude.

While I might wear sexy lingerie more often if I had a "perfect body" I doubt it. Sexy lingerie is generally a novelty and everyone knows you don't need lingerie for an evening of romance. So why do I wear sexy lingerie? Because the moment I think of wearing lingerie my imagination gets a little boost. A woman in sexy lingerie is sexier than a woman in the nude. While this could create a huge argument, that is my opinion. A nude woman is very sexy, it is just that a woman in the right sexy lingerie is sexier! I know that there is a difference of opinion about this, but here is my case. If clothes make the man, then sexy lingerie makes a woman appear sexier, more desirable and alluring. Sexy lingerie is all about the visual story or drama a woman creates with the various sexy lingerie items she wear. A sexy shelf bra makes a woman's breasts look larger, and exaggerates them in a very suggestive manner, pushing them up and out. A garter belt is old school sexy that is very suggestive of a sexual being, an erotic look that is very sexy, in this context. What is sexier than a pair of panties, sheer perhaps, covering, just barely a woman's most private part and then a pair of stockings held up by the garters. The picture this woman creates is one of suggestive sexuality. Add a pair of high heels, and the look is complete.




Getting dressed in this sexy lingerie outfit is sure to put you in the mood for romance. I rarely wear a shelf bra as it exaggerates my bust, and this is reserved for special moments. While I have many sheer panties, the garter belt is truly a step back in time. Pantyhose almost threatened to relegate garter belts to the trash heap of clothing history along with nehru jackets ,and leisure suits. A garter belt takes time to put on and along with slipping on the thigh high stockings, is not quite as simple as slipping on a pair of hideous panty hose. It is impossible to look at myself in this outfit without thinking " I am sexier than before I put this on"., to say the least. I know that when he sees me in this outfit, I am hot. I feel hot, I look hot.

So why don't I wear this more often? Or outfits similar to this? I have thought about this and I think there are a couple of reasons. One is time, or spontaneity. While it doesn't take a long time to get dressed this way, I feel compelled to redo my makeup, fix my hair and get dressed so the time is a factor. Next is I feel very exposed. Obviously, right! But I also mean there is little left to the imagination here. Shelf bra, sheer panties, thigh highs and high heels. My insecurities get in the way. Once I am dressed, I do feel and look sexy, at least he thinks so. Perhaps if I was more of an exhibitionist I would go for it more often. If it is true that there is a time and a place for everything then there is a time and a place for sexy lingerie. The time and the place are generally at night, on the weekends and on vacation. Many couples, including myself have a sort of ritual for wearing sexy lingerie. Due to its charged nature, sexy lingerie sends a distinct message reserved for the lover in your life. The question some men may ask is "why don't you greet me in the evening after work at the door with a martini in one hand, wearing skimpy lingerie"? The answer is likely either "the kids will see me half naked", or perhaps "I am not the type to just dress up in lingerie because that will tell you what I want"!

The message sent by wearing sexy lingerie is unmistakably sexual or romantic. Lingerie and romance are inextricably intertwined and no one mistakes wearing lingerie for anything else. One wears sexy lingerie to encourage intimacy, but why wear it at all? Why not just go naked? Why waste the money buying lingerie when it just stays on a few minutes anyway? It is a method of expressing a woman's sexuality, showing off her erogenous zones in a flattering way. Many of the things we do are genetically wired into us as men and women. I am not suggesting that sexy lingerie is in our genetic code but expressing our needs certainly is. Wearing sexy lingerie is a ritual of sorts and the older we get the stronger the desire to engage in the ritual becomes. I wear sexy lingerie in part because everyone tells me to wear it! Television, commercials, movies, men, women, even parents all reinforce the idea of wearing lingerie for the sake of romance. I wear it for me, for him because when I am buying it I am thinking about romance, when I am wearing it there is little else one can think of other than intimacy. I associate sexy lingerie with very pleasant memories, adult encounters and adult pleasures. I wear sexy lingerie because it makes me feel good! It makes me look more feminine, more like a woman, more desirable and of course, sexy.