Monday, August 8, 2011

Lingerie and Sexy Clothes make me feel Sexy!

I am asked constantly why lingerie is so popular and also why do women seem to always be on the look out for sexy clothing ? The answer is in our title as lingerie and sexy clothes make every woman feel sexy! Women, as well as men to a lesser degree wear clothes that make them feel sexy and by extension look sexy as one begets the other. Looking sexy is a gift given to us by our creator and within limits we should exploit it in the pursuit of looking and feeling our best. Does this mean we tramp it up and look slutty and suggestive? Well, no not really but looking sexy is certainly within reason although if you ask 100 women what constitutes within reason you will likely get multiple answers to the question.

Are women simply looking for attention, seeking fufillment or just wanting to be recognized? All of those and many more as far as I can tell and for the most part they are a sign of a healthy and well adjusted individual. Is it true that it is better to look good than to feel good? Well, not really but we all know that when we feel good, we look good and on and on. Looking good is fundamental to our mental health and wanting to look good is a sign of good mental health. Is wanting to look trashy, trampy and downright outrageous good or bad. Here most would agree that looking good does have its limits. In other words a woman can go too far and cross the line or jump the shark when it comes to looking attractive.

We often see that person who has crossed the line but not as often as one might imagine. When you consider how free everyone in the free world is free to dress or not dress up then you might wonder what keeps everyone in line. After all there are no real fashion police and rarely do people actually express that opinion they may have voiced in private. So what keeps women, in this case from breaking all the rules? In all liklihood the answer is that the rules of society are strongly woven and breaking the societal rule is rarely if ever violated. Society is a strong incentive to stay within the lines and stick to the rules. Since the rules are rarely written down most women rarely get close to the edge.

Women want to look sexy and often do but the truth is they rarely break the rules for fear of being labeled outcasts. Outcasts are after all social deviants who are to be avoided on some if not all levels. So when you look at a woman who is "outside" the norms consider that she is likely not really outside any limits, only superficially scratching the limits. When was the last time you actually saw a woman who was violating the social rules about what to wear? The answer if rarely, if ever and even then the question has to be asked as to how far did she actually go? I submit that the violation is likely a minor infraction, at best. How far did she actually go in violating the societal norms the rest of us follow? Did she wear a hot pink bra with her navy top? Did you actually get a glimpse of her panties? Did you see her bra straps? How about her pants were too tight? Now I know those are pretty serious infractions but all in all very minor deviations from societies norms.

Why is it that there aren't more serious violations? Is it because the rules are the rules and breaking them is considered very violative and damaging to othe rest of us. I mean what if a young boy saw a 19 year old young womans underwear? Would the young boy be damaged beyond repair? What if a 75 year old widower saw a 17 year olds underwear? Would that cause 3 years of therapy? Of course not and you know it. The truth is the damage would be non existant. Sure the lawyers would run ads asking "have you been exposed to the excruciating exposure of a man's underpants"? As a society we all comport ourselves rather well as far as I can tell, don't you agree?

Are young women afraid that if they wear provocative clothing they will be exposed to the threat of having "asked for it" in the event they are raped? Not likely as we all know that you cannot accept and invite the horrible act of rape simply by the choice of what you wear over your body. No woman can ask for being raped although many rapists or wanna be rapists often take a run at it.

Society has a grip and a strong one at that on our behaviour and has placed limits on what we can wear, how we can dress, what we can expose and by and large we all follow the rule. Society makes its statement and we are all, most of us, more than willing to go along for the ride.

1 comment:

Jeannette said...

All sorts of clothes make me feel sexy but in truth I have to have had good sleep, good nutrition and generally be in good health. Clothes help, of course, but all by themselves they cannot work magic, now can they?